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writes:I'm crushing big time on this really good-looking, sweet, charming guy. I just have a few problems. For one, he's so charming and sweet and good-looking (seemingly too good to be true) that multiple girls I know confessed to crushing on him, too. No one knows I like him. I tell people we are friends, but that's it (and we really are, but not that close). Two, one of my best friends is convinced she's in love with him. She doesn't know I like him either but, besides, I would never consider dating him because of I value her friendship more. Still, when I talk to him, he's so sweet and very innocent and makes me feel like he genuinely just likes talking to me. However, I see how he is with other girls and he is pretty much the same. very joking and cute... he's a flirt but he doesn't really seem to know it. It's very innocent, I think. or is it? I can't help crushing and laughing when he talks to me but I'm thinking maybe he's not a good idea? Am I right?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2014): charming and sweet could just be his personality. he could also just be friendly and talkative that's why he talks to a lot of girls. maybe thats why girls fall for him.
it's great that your such a caring friend to your friend. if this guy asks u out and you've decided hes someone u wanna go for, make sure ur friend's aware of it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2014): wow! if only my friends would consider my feelings! i think the next time he makes you laugh, you could say something like, "oh, you big flirt." obviously not in a insulting way, just a jokey way. see what his reaction is. maybe "sweet and charming" could just be part of his personality. maybe he's just a friendly person who seems to be one of those guys that atracts many girls including yourself. if he asks you out and you've decided you'd like to go out with him, make sure to talk to your bff about it. so she's clear and she understands what a caring friend you were to even tell her. good luck! i'm 13 btw, so i guess we're kind of in the same age group.
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reader, brunette14  +, writes (2 February 2014):
 I really think that you shouldn't worry about it that much. It's fine for you to fall for a guy, we all do! Just because loads of other people are crushing on him, it doesn't mean that you have to stop your feeling for him. I suggest that because you are just 'crushing' on him, try not to rush into things and get to know him better. This way, once you start to hang around with him more and learn different and new things with him, you will be able to tell if you really do like him or if it was 'just another crush'. Try not to be clingy around him, guys don't like it and often need some space away from girls. Talk to him like he's a friends, nothing more or nothing less because from what I gather, he gets A LOT of attention from the female species ! I think he would appreciate it if you treated him like a human, not 'a really fit, good looking guy that I want and need'.If your worried that he flirts with every other girl, then maybe that's just his personality. That might not be the cause though, he might just flirt with every girl he meets because he knows that they all like it. Perhaps if you act and treat him the same way you treat your friends, then he might let his guard down and treat you as a friend too, not just 'another girl'. You have to remember though, these are all possibilities and he could be completely different to how I think he is so its really up to you on what to do.All I can say now is, do what you think is right and I hope it all works out!
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