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writes:well its about my girlfriend, she has a hard time expressing her feelings, we talk but have a different sense of humor, i cant ask a serious question without getting a “your mom” joke, and i dont really understand her cause her mom doesnt let us spend enough time together.I broke up with her once about a year ago and i went back to her after she sent me a text anonymously but told me it was her. i went back to her because i was sad and i felt happy that she wanted me back. i made a complete mistake breaking up with her. She still acted the same way before i broke up with her. we still get intimate but only touch and i dont want to leave her cause i dont want to be alone. i really love her and shes a good girl and doesnt do drugs or drink which im glad. im just confused and sad cause i dont understand her and im wondering if im really the one like she says i am. im just wondering, should i stay with her... plus she might be moving in a year
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reader, ArmyMedic  +, writes (21 March 2009):
 You don't want to leave her because you will be alone? Well stay with her and be miserable!
If you are not happy in your relationship even if you don't realise you are doing it you won't be putting the same effort in, which isn't fair on your girlfriend, you are basically just being selfish, the longer you stay with her the more miserable you both will become. I think it is time for you to stop being selfish and scared of being alone and actually break up with her.
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reader, tux  +, writes (21 March 2009):
 I think you need a more compelling reason to stay with her beyond "You don't want to be alone." To me it sounds like you have a lot of reason to leave her, but only one not too.. and the one reason to not leave her, is not a good reason. All I am hearing is I don't understand her, I don't think I'm the one she says I am.. To me I think your mind is really set on wanting to leave her..
But if you really want to stay, you need to come up with a more compelling reason to stay. Or work on getting one.. You need to talk more to her and work from there. You need to figure out what makes you attracted to her beyond the fact that you don't want to be alone.
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (21 March 2009):
 I would stay with her for at least the time being. Sit her down and tell her that you're goinf to have a serious conversation and there are no jokes allowed!! Tell her how you feel!! Make her listen and ask her why she doesn't open up. Listen to her! Very weird situation, she shouldn't be doing this all of the time.x
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