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writes:It's been 3 weeks since my girlfriend and I broke up. The reason we broke up was because we fought too much, and our intimacy reduced, but we did have a great friendship (she was my best friend as I was to her). We did have trust and loyalty, before she lied to me about going to a party.But I forgave her (long story). A week after the break up she called and told me she missed me. and said she felt that she had made a mistake, she said a part of her wants to be with me, but the other part doesn't know. She said she's worried that we will fight again and break up.I told her the only way I'll take her back is if all of her wants me. We've been talking it through. And we phone at times and we both have said that we have the will to try again, but at this moment she's emotionally unstable (I believe I'm a bit too). We're going to a concert together. That's like 4 hours away. I gave her a text that I was confused because of her confusion and I feel that I'll never be more than friends with you.She replied and said "are we going with the flow or are we just going to be friends? please just forget about it" She's giving me mixed messages and I don't know if I should wait, or just move on. Should I show her I still want to be with her, because I really do. I know we have something. I just don't want to be played. Should I stay or move on?? If I do stay are there ways to get her back??Ps. We went out for 3 years, lost it together, and we're both 20. When we broke up she said she didn't love me, but later said she does, the only reason she said that was for me to move on faster (kind of cruel I say). and in our relationship we broke up like 2-3 times but not for long, max. 2 weeks.Please help. Thank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2012): listen kid i know u love her but if she deosnt love u back dont try to get her to love u again because u also have to think about her feelings to if u pressure her into lovin u again she not gonna be happy and neither will u because shes not happy find someone where u dont have to go thru trouble to get them to love u back ask yourself am i doin the rigt thing in trying to get her to love me again would she be happy to how would she feel about it but if i tell her will it make her feel bad ifvshe say noso kid think this over and let your heart be ur guide i hope u do the right thing kid if u have any more questions just ask me ok
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reader, RayBones +, writes (22 January 2011):
 Wow... You don't want to be played, but you say things like "I feel that I'll never be more than friends with you." But you also say that you want to be with her.
Are you trying to play her? You gotta be more honest and clear about what you want from the girl. You're probably both to young to settle down with each other. If you only want her because you are worried about being alone or that you won't meet someone else you should let her go and move on. Gives you both a better chance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2011): she probably just needs her space. you are both young. also, if you love her and know for sure you want to be with her tell her just that. she will either realize she wants you or maybe a break will be better suited for you.
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