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writes:Hi, I am married for 8 years now,24 years old I had my first child, I have 2 kids, my mum was neglecting me and she has this attitude problem i could'nt bare,so i runaway from home by marrying a man who is a wonderful trusted husband that I don't love since day one although he treats me like a queen I can't give him anything, I stayed virgin for the first 6 months of marriage b'coz I couldn't sleep with him and I even went to a dr. To lose my virginity, I fell in love with my best friend 2 years ago and since that day i never slept with my husband again, my lover was the one introducing me to my husband and he is one of my husband's closest friends,I knew him before knowing my husband and we were best friends for almost 10 years now, we try to stay appart but we just couldn't, I never loved a man like I love him and I never felt alive like i do when I am with him, he is my soul mate and he is da reason I feel happy again,we are so in love and he asked me for marriage more then once, we never want to hurt my husband who adores me same time we cannot stay appart, I realy feel guilty so I decided to open up with my husband and tell him that I don't love him and that I am not happy in bed with him and never was, obviously he knows about me and his friend but he would never shows that he knows b'coz he might lose me and he would never want me to stay away from him, I have this perfect life from the outsidewith but i feel so unhappy and I started having food disorder and sever depression and I went to a therapist but It did nt help, so what am I suppose to do? Get divorce and hurt my husband? Marry his friend and the guy who will make me happy ? Or just stay with my unhappy marriage? Plz need your comments
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2012): thank you all for your comments, i regret ruining my life for someone who was nt man enough for me, dumped me as soon as i told him i'll stay away from my husband, came up with some stupid reasons just to walk away ,my husband is leaving by tomorrow n' the other guy vanished, fool i am, i guess i made a mistake that ruined my life entirely.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2012): you are having sex with your hbs best friend and u think this is hurtinh you?
your hb is devastated but because he is a decent man, a good man he just accepts the crap u and his so called friend heap on him.
yes please divorce your hb. he deserves a wife who will love him, honour him and someone who will be faithful to him.
LoveGirl
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (15 January 2012):
 Your husband loves you so much that he will put up with anything just to be with you. Yes it will hurt him, but in time he will get over this and go on to find a woman who can truly make him happy, you cannot do that because you do not love him, so yes you might feel that you don't want to hurt him, but in the long run you will be doing him a favour, so tell him that the marriage is over and file for divorce. Only have contact with him if it is to do with the children and allow him to move on with his life. Go and be happy with the man you love and allow your husband to find a woman who will love him.
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reader, angelalb  +, writes (13 January 2012):
I am surprised your husband would still want to be with you after you told him that. Anyway why be unhappy. You telling your husband of your indesgretion signifys the first step. The second step would be to file for divorce. You need to fair to your husband and spare him from the agony you have been putting him through. Good Luck Daniele
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