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writes:I'm married with two kids. I have been married for about 11 years,going through some tought time with my husband. I'm so stress out, will my husband wants to end marriage because he says I don't listen to him and is always talking back, I feel that I do talk back, but its because he says a lot of things that aren't true. He tells me that even if I stay he's not going to love me anymore. Do you think I should just go??? I honestly feel that if there is no cheating involved we can certainly work it out but he doesn't want to try should I just let it be??? I do honestly still love him a lot and I know marriage is never perfect, but is it possible to still stay and love a person who don't love you??? Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (15 February 2015):
 If you try and row a rowboat with one ore you would go in circles and get no where. It's the same in a relationship or marriage. IT takes TWO willing people to WANT to work together and make it a viable relationship/marriage.
As HARD as it may seem, I would NOT want to stay married to a person who doesn't WANT to be with me, who doesn't want to WORK on the issues.
Why should you NOT have a say? An opinion? Why can you not "talk" back?
I think he is using the "I want a divorce" as emotional blackmail so you will "tow the line" - and just do whatever you are told.
You are not 5 years old. He is not your parent. YOU GET to have your own feelings, opinions and thoughts.
Do you really think staying is beneficial AT ALL for you? To be with a man who has 0 respect for you, who doesn't love you and who thinks you should be treated as a child?
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reader, Midnight Shadow  +, writes (14 February 2015):
 Talk back? That's something you tell a child off for, not your partner - so I'm assuming you mean he thinks you're argumentative because you want to tell him when he's got something wrong about you?
I'd suggest couples therapy but, if he's unwilling, it will be useless and you'll just have to leave the relationship.
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