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36-40,
*ieran
writes:Hello, I am confused and hurting. I have been going out with my girlfriend (19 I'm 22) for 9 months now, we have had a fantastic time and this, for both of us has been the best time in our lives. We have got so close, and she even began discussing about getting engaged, having children in the future long from now with me.She has been having a bad time lately, shes been out of work for 3 months and keeps trying for so many jobs and that had of course began to make her miserable, and up until 3 days ago she says she loves me but not as much as she used to. That hurt, so deeply; when up to a week ago we were having a great time; everything about our relationship has been perfect. Even she has said so.So because of this, i comforted her because it hurts me as much as it hurts her. But we decided it was best to spend a few days apart. Since then she has grown more miserable and ill without me being there, should I see her again? or stay away until the day we agreed so she will appreciate whatwe have.I love her, and she even was the one to tell me that first. I am not sure what to do, she is the only girl I have been with that matters to me and makes me as happy as I make her.....help.
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reader, Kieran +, writes (5 November 2007):
Kieran is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhello, well for me and her; shes not sure if she wants to break up or not. I have told her to decide because it is agony not knowing, she says she does love me but not like she used to. But what does that really mean?At the moment we are going to carry on with our break, and in 2 weeks we have agreed to carry on and see if things work out.
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reader, Kieran +, writes (5 November 2007):
Kieran is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhello, well for me and her; shes not sure if she wants to break up or not. I have told her to decide because it is agony not knowing, she says she does love me but not like she used to. But what does that really mean?
At the moment we are going to carry on with our break, and in 2 weeks we have agreed to carry on and see if things work out.
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reader, onkybonx  +, writes (1 November 2007):
 if she misses you now, staying away until the date agreed would only be doing so to prove a point...whch is never a good enough reason, especially if it goes against what you both want....however thread carefully, don't rush into anything, take it step by step or you could find yourself landed in the same situation all over again in a few weeks...
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2007): It is a hard situation when your partner is going through a time in their life that you just don't understand. I think that the best thing to do is to tell her that you love her and let her know that if she thinks spending this time apart will help her understand things more clearly, then let her know you are willing to give her the time she needs. Ask her if she thinks that she has had enough time apart, then you want to see her too. Let her feel like your behind her in whatever decision she makes.
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reader, canadianhotass  +, writes (1 November 2007):
 I am 20 yrs old, i have been with my bf since i was 16, and he was 22 n is now 26. when he met me i was homeless, i had no one, and he was the only person who believed in me, and stuck through, I've never had that. I have had 32 jobs in 3 and a half yrs, all just bad luck, and he has never once left my side. i know how you are feeling, because my man felt it too.
I say stay, your help can help her blossom. If she feels ill without u, a physical need, like i do for my man when hes gone, STAY. actions speak louder than words. for most women.
help her fuel her love for you
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