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male
age
30-35,
*ichaeluk
writes:I love my girlfriend more than anything, we've been together for almost 2 years and have been through a lot of hard times. Recently. we've been on holidays in Poland (country we originally come from) for almost two weeks. During our stay there, we have been invited to her cousins' wedding. I'd love to go but the thing is... I am nearly 20 years old and she's almost 18. I just got accepted to Queens University in Belfast to study Computer Science. My course starts on 27th of September while the wedding is on... 25th of September! First she said she'll go on her own and that she understands, then she said she really wants me to go with her, that she can't go on her on, that she can't live without me etc...Finally this morning, she gave me an ultimatum which sounded more less like this. I expect you to be there, at least for one day, if you're not there.. (the rest sounded more like it'll be over between us two)I know that she loves me, that she can't live without me, but why does she have to give me an ultimatum? Man I love her too, more than anything, she's the centre of my world which may collapse if I don't go! She said she cannot be happy without me...The thing is that she doesn't see the problem with me travelling to Poland on Friday, going to the wedding and coming back on Sunday to make it to university for Monday. I am really stressed over this and I wish she could be with me during that weekend. Unfortunately, she already booked her ticket so she's going no matter what. My heart tells me book tickets and go... common sense says don't. It's a joint flight so what if one of them gets cancelled? What if something happens during the wedding? I really wanted to relax the weekend before and have some quiet time. But she thinks different.I've always been there for her, I've travelled with her back and forth this year so that we could go to two different weddings that she was invited to. I had to take time off school, I had to save up money to go with her, I did everything for her to make her happy! I give her a lift to work everyday, even if I have to take leave my work early, I did everything I can to impress her family, I even used to babysit her little brother and sister.. We went on a lot of trips, had some unforgettable time together.. Now this one time when I just can't be there, she blackmails me.. What am I supposed to do? go or stay?If you need more detail, just ask.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2010): It sounds like you two have a great, loving relationship. Then why can't you explain to her how you feel about this trip? Your presence at this wedding can't be THAT important. If she really loves you the way you say she does, there is no way she will leave you because of something this trivial. My guess is, if you don't go to the wedding, she will be a little mad at you, until she starts missing you. I hope everything turns out for the best. Good luck!
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