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writes: Dear Cupid,I am 18 (bday in May). My boyfriend of a year and a half is 24. Iam a dental assistant and he is a personal banker at Wells Fargo. Since my boyfriend is older he already wants a child of his own and start his family. I know I want kids and whenever I see my friends with thier kids I think to myself "I want one of my own" :D But I don't know if I should continue to wait because Iam young or what. If I do deciede to just do it I won't try to get pregnant until the end of this year(2011) or beginning of next year(2012). Help! What do you think?? Reply to this Question
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (17 January 2011):
 Was there a problem with the decision that you felt the need to ask people for their opinions? And then when you got them, you restated your starting point?
If you want a baby, have a baby. It's your decision. If you don't want people to give you their opinions, don't ask for them.
Good luck whatever you decide!
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (14 January 2011):
 Are you eighteen already or will you be eighteen in May of 2011?
Don't rush into having a family, you could grow to resent him and your children for not letting you have a life before you committed yours to his and the childrens lives. Think this through, are you ready to be a mother, to put your children before yourself. Have you partied all you want to without worrying about responsibility? Not really an option when you're a parent.
Think it through and if you aren't ready, let him know you would like a long engagement, he had time to live his life, he should let you do the same.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (13 January 2011):
When did he propose, if he's all fired up to have a family?
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reader, kenny  +, writes (13 January 2011):
 Just don't rush into it, think about all the options, the pro's and cons. If you don't feel you are ready yet then wait, don't have a baby just because your boyfriend is ready, have one when you are both ready. You are still both young, sit back and enjoy your joyous teens, and when you feel the time is right for both of you on all levels then go for it.
Good luck
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reader, MonksDaBomb +, writes (13 January 2011):
 Wait until you're married
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reader, petina1 +, writes (13 January 2011):
 Speaking from experience, I would make sure you have your home in order, your careers in order, so that if you do take a break out with pregnancy then you have a job to go back to. Also do some research in to what it entails to have a child. It's not easy and it's very costly. You are young but that doesnt mean to say you won't make a good mother. I only mean that you have plenty of time to think about things and can afford to wait a bit longer. Make it a joint decision and make sure the father will support you and the child.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2011): you have a job a good man there is no reason not to. as long as u can suport the child, if your thinking your too young then what do you think the right age should be?? just be ready for it, a baby brings out all the problems in a relationship but it can also make it better.
just be sure that you are ready for it
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