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writes:I am trying to figure out what to do in this crazy situation and I would appreciate any input! I just broke up with my boyfriend (of almost 4 years)It was very hard to do, because I love him, but very justified. a few days ago because I found conversations between he and another female who is in her mid 30s and he is a few years younger than me (I'm in my early 20s). He's only known her for about 2 weeks she lives in another state, they know eachother from gaming online. They were flirting and being sexual towards each other and that's a deal breaker for me, so I ended it. He admitted to me that he told her he was 24 when really he's in his late teens and like I said she's in her 30s and she has a daughter close to his age! He told me that the reason he said he was 24 was because it was more likely that she would do inappropriate things, like talk sexually towards him and he asked her to take naked pictures of her breasts etc. and send them to him, which she actually did. He thought he was not going to be caught, too bad he was! Now to my question... I have a few ways of contacting her, I would like to know what all of you feel about me writing her a letter and telling her his real age, I'm not sure if I should since he's the one who lied to her about his age in the first place, so she didn't know his real age and I'm done with him anyway! So should I spill the beans???
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2008): dont tell if its just for revenge. but i think the other woman has a right to know (his true age). if he lied about his birthday he probably lied about being single.
i doubt he even thought of it as cheating because it wasnt a physical connection. check out related online articles, theyre abundant.
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reader, megbug31 +, writes (30 March 2008):
 dont spill the beans.
i imagine that the reason you want to tell her is out of spite... don't do it. i realize that in your eyes she is the reason your relationship ended.. understandably.. i mean id be peeved too.
in actuality she didn't do anything (that she knew of). as far as she was concerned she was jsut sending nude shots to some single guy a few years younger than her on the net. if your ex lied about his age, what makes you think he didn't lie about his status?
im just saying there isnt much of a reason to do it other than to just expose her and make her realize what she did. truthfully i don't thatink that it would really affect her if you sent a letter. i mean what would you be thinking if you got this random letter from this guy you had had met online's ex telling him everything.. sure at first you might feel bad or maybe she wouldn't even feel bad she would think it was just your ex giving her the slip.
i dont think it would really benefit anyone but you. i wouldn't do it.
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reader, Namatjira  +, writes (30 March 2008):
Just move on. After all, this woman he is supposed to have been online with might not even be a woman. He lied about his details and she might have too. All that matters is what you choose to do for your life. Let him get on with his own problems and you just find your own balance.
Good luck.
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