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writes:Hi - I was on earlier about a friend in the next town who had deceived and lied to me over a man we both liked and was seeing. She is dating him now and has done some pretty mean things to me, on the sly, which I have only recently discovered and feel she needs to hear a few home truths - not about him - more about her.We have recently cut each other out of our social media lives and do not see each other any more - but this was just before I had time to discover what she had done to me and I still feel some things should be said to her which may make me look bitter but just so I don't feel like I've been treated like a total doormat - which I have been. This girl knows I still know what she's up to through mutual friends so I cannot cut her out my life and ignore her completely. Therefore - should I speak up before I move on completely or stay silent now?Your answers for and against will be greatly appreciated.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (21 August 2015):
 No,let it go. Definitely and completely. Whatever happened happened lready, theer 's no undoing it, and there's no point in bringing it up again, no positive change, nothing to earn. Maybe you think that if you could vent your anger and ir elicit some reaction from her you'd feel better- I doubt it. You will only feel better when you give yourself your own cloure and decide that you simply are not interested in focusing your attention and thoughts on certain people who do not beong to your life anymore.Yes of course that you can ignore and cut her off completely , why not ? If your common friendsbring her up, change subject at once, and / or, if they don't get it, just tell them that you are NOT interested on havong the update about these people so your fineds should kindly spare themselves the trouble.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2015): i think you should become a musical genius and create an angry tirade about a low life lousy deceiving friend who got more than she bargained for when she started dating a low life lousy cheating man (your ex) and create some musical and fictitious ghastly ending which could then become the basis for a braodway musical that will have you mingling with the stars while they stay home eating spaghetti made of rats tails.Seriously, now is the time to bitch if ever there was one.And who gives a damn about being bitter..that is soo unimportant in this day and age..but do you even need to waste your wonderful brain on them and their disastrous collision course. Unless you are gonna make millions from it ,i wouldnt bother to waste the time of day on it,and the choice is yours because you probably could make that broadway play while you are still fresh,raw and angry and annoyed. Useful scenes of deception must be running roynd your head even as you read this so jot a few down just in case you need them and pray you run into eminen who is a master of angry rap tirades and will help you pull in a big crowd on the first night,but oh poor then, they wont recognise themselves cos they probably think....who cares what they think,you got way beyond them,just as you deserved to and i bet you will have a great future compared to their mndane one, without your spark.I agrree with HP dont give them the satisfaction of your thoughts but i believe i may vary in wanting you to make a musical about it and tell the world.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (21 August 2015):
 I would just ask the "mutual" friends to keep her out of the conversation in the future as you want nothing to do with her.
And I would keep silent. SHE knows what she did, you know what she did. You cut her off, no need to re-hash what she did.
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