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writes:I have my friend's wedding to go to in a couple of weeks and I am debating whether or not to shave..I have had a beard for the last 10 months and have grown fond of it, it is part of me now I feel.I do keep it 'trimmed' but it is still probably about an inch long. Anything shorter and it loses it's full look and doesn't look like it joins up correctly around the mouth looking almost lopsided. I am aware that an inch of hair could be considered untidy though so I feel it's shave completely or leave it as I usually trim it.It would probably take me a few months to grow back.Any thought?Many thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the kind words everyone!
All the best to you all :)
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (11 July 2014):
 I think that is REALLY nice of you to ask the bride. And yes, it will grow back :)
Enjoy the wedding.
Your friend picked a very thoughtful Best Man.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (11 July 2014):
 f they have asked you to be best man when you were already sporting the beard, they know what you'll look like in the pictures and they don't have a problem with it . What they saw, it's what they get- a bearded best man. I don't think they just assumed that you'd shave your beard for the day, after all thete's no law or etiquette which says that all the men in a wedding have to be clean shaven.
If you want to ask the bride and are willing to dispose of your beard if so she should prefer, that's very kind of you and makes you a wonderful friend, but I think it's really above and beyond the call of duty.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI forgot to mention the important part that I best man! I am very comfortable with how it looks but understand that it is not my big day and I don't want to ruin photos for them. I know my buddy wouldn't care at all but maybe I should ask the bride. I believe that it is no ones decision to look like something except themselves but I am sensitive to the fact it may be prudent to make the sacrifice this time... It will grow back but may take a few months in which it doesn't look as neat as it does now. The long time growing allows everything to grow out and I trim it into shape whereas I'm a slow grower and it looks patchy in the meantime....maybe after 10 months it's time for a change anyway though...
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (10 July 2014):
I agree that if you are IN the wedding (as a groomsman or best man) you CAN ASK the groom/bride (the beard will grow back) or just trim it and go as you are.
I put CAN ASK - because I don't think you HAVE to ask. Now if they have mentioned you shaving (again only if you are a groomsman/ best man) I would consider it.
Now, I'm not a fan of beards myself for the most part, some men CAN carry a beard and rock it, others just can't. One that isn't maintained does look unattractive.
A nice trim can do wonders.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (10 July 2014):
 If you are IN the wedding(groomsman,etc.) then yes,trim or shave but look your ( best photos and all you know). You don't want someone years from now looking at the wedding photos going"Who was that creep with the beard?) Even though it may look great to you,lots of folks think it's uncool to look 'shabby'
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2014): I don't think a beard should be a problem. Especially if you aren't in the wedding, but if you are really worried you could always ask your friend :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2014): I think the beard will be fine. Just make sure it looks clean, neat and trimmed. Make sure that it looks the same length all over and that the bits you do shave are shaven and not sporting bristle instead. Even if your beard might not be to everyones taste, it'll only look bad if you arrive sporting a straggly mess with yesterdays dinner in it and a few nesting birds .... and I'm sure you won't do that!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (10 July 2014):
 If you are not in the wedding and/or your friend has not asked you to shave, then I would not shave if you don't want to.
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