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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Ok so...my ex ("Michael") and I met when I was 14 and he was 21 and wow, it was something unexplainable. Beautiful four years and no, he never touched me or asked for anything that would hurt me. We broke up because of distance. I am now nineteen and we spoke today...hes in so much conflict it hurts me. He can't finish school or find work and that breaks him-this is a man who worked 14hr shifts for three years. He supported his mom and siblings since he was 15. I am with someone I care for but it still pains me. If Michael died tomorrow, a part of me would die too. I love him but still, I know there's no going back..my question though is: should I help? He would hate this but I want to send him some money. Please advise!
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (6 May 2011):
 a) Discuss it with your current boyfriend
b) Discuss it with Michael. If he isn't into accepting charity, it would hurt his self-respect and his relationship with you. You could try to point out that this is in the nature of a loan, if that would help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2011): Discuss it with your partner first. You do not want to make him suspicious for no reason. Explain the situation and ask if he thinks it is ok to send money to your ex. to help him out. If your partner says yes then I would discuss it with Michael to see how he feels about you sending him money. If your partner says no then you will have to accept that...Michael will manage one way or the other, he has taken care of himself and family since he was a teenager so he is able.
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