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*hilippa
writes:I keep giving my boyfriend chances and he is clearly not changing .I need to find a way to break up with him ,but the thing is he is a controling person ,and I gave him to much power .He is expecting me to stay with him .To be honnest I read an article about emotional abuse and I think that is what I have been going threw all of these years .I want out ,what should I do ? Legal action , cheatin ...boy oh boy why is it so hard for me to leave ,I don't love him anymore ...I hate him for being soo mean to me !
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (6 May 2011):
 Pack your stuff and get out. Or if the place you live in is in your name.. pack his stuff and have a 3rd person present when he picks it up. Change the locks.
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reader, amazingk +, writes (6 May 2011):
 I'm glad you own your portion of the responsibility in this situation, as people can only treat you how you allow them to. That said, if you really are done and don't want to deal with him anymore, TELL HIM. Then block his calls, texts, and emails. You may even want to get a restraining order if necessary. You will need to do everything you have to do in order to drive home the point that you and him are over. Use any and all viable means at your disposal to accomplish this. And whatever you do, DO NOT back down. Good luck!
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reader, smiliek  +, writes (6 May 2011):
 You haven't given a great deal of detail, but if he is controlling what you Do, who you see or talk to, what you wear etc then yes that could be emotional abuse. I've been in a similar relationship. If you live together the best thing to do is to leave. Do it when he's not there. Take your stuff and go somewhere safe that he doesnt know about. Then call and tell him its over. Sorry to say but its better to be safe then sorry in a situation that could potentially get alot worse.
If you don't live together, then call him and tell him you don't want to be with him. Plain and simple. Make sure you're staying somewhere he doesnt know about. Again, better to be safe. If he makes any kind of threats tell him you'll go to the police. Write down anything he says that is threatening in any manner. And if you feel unsafe, go to the police and tell them everything.
Good luck
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