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writes:My best friend of 10 years is drifting away from me. We've lived in different countries for the last 5 years but had loads of phone contact and it's always back to normal when we see each other. We know the intimate details of each others' lives, and we've always been there for each other. Her phone network is very unreliable and she's in a different timezone plus working hard, and has a new man.We've been drifting apart for the last six months, which is sad but I can accept that things change and lives change, maybe we'll keep drifting, maybe become closer at a later stage. I just wondered if I should say something to her about it, or just let it go.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (21 March 2013):
 you can tell her you understand what's happening and why and let her know you miss her and will be available when time permits.
I had a bff when I was 14... till I was about 29 we were friends... after I married and had children (she never did) we drifted apart... so from age 29 till age 51 we had NO CONTACT... we recently found each other again on Facebook and now we get together every few months and have dinner.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2013): I had a very good friend a yr ago and she moved to another city to be with her man, at first we phoned and texted and she visited occassionally but eventually she made little effort, we drifted apart as she didnt want to make the effort. Now we no longer are in contact which is sad. IF you are BOTH making the effort to keep in contact then maybe this is just a stage? and maybe things will go back to nomral eventually,but... dont push it or try to hard, it may appear needy! this works against you, trust me ive been there, and nearly lost my friend.F/ships go through stages, ppl get busy but a true friend will always keep in contact in some way and you will find a way back to each other. I suggest keep contacting with each other,occasionally and it may pass. It is hard being in diff cities, I know what thats like too well.but.. if yu are making most of the the effort, and her not much, due to new bf or whatever...or if she seems not as interested or even distant when you do connect.. then stop trying so much, see other friends and leave it up to her to make more effort, fships require effort by both ppl and its not fair if one is trying and the other isnt, it hurts a lot.all the bestsummerraingood luck
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