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writes:I have been having a steady relationship with the same boyfriend for years but he was out of town and a old friend whos a boy came and our old feelings came over us and we had sex! I think I got pregnant too! I don't know what to do , should I say its my boyfriends baby or tell him I cheated! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks, I told him and I broke up with him because I didn't think he deserved me. We are still friends and I knew it was my exs baby because we didn't have sex around that time. I am keeping the baby. And me and my ex still have feelings for each other so we have gotten back together. Thanks again!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2011): How you can even think about what you are asking,no one normal or only half decent would do. It is unforgivable. Karma has been a bitch and will be a bigger bitch if you carry on doing unforgivable acts.You cheated and still all you can think about is yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2011): First, do a pregnancy test.
If negative, then you need to break up with your boyfriend and figure out why you cheated and why you would do that to another person before you begin dating again.
If the pregnancy test is positive, then you have to figure out who the father is and be honest about it.
Why?
Because the child needs to know who the father is, as they get older they will have particular risks based on their parent, and not have other risks, etc.
Why be honest, even if it is painful and shameful. Because honesty helps keep you straight in your life, you treat others with respect and you have the right to be treated with respect as well.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (21 January 2011):
 P.S. forgot to add to my key points, either way if you do happen to be pregnant then you're going to have tell your boyfriend.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (21 January 2011):
First and foremost, you should take a pregnancy test to see if you're pregnant.
Secondly, if you are then you need to tell your parents..then they'll discuss your options. Are you positive this baby is this other kid's? If you aren't you're going to have to get DNA testing to find out for sure. That means telling your boyfriend.
If you keep the pregnancy then you're going to have to come clean and tell your boyfriend you cheated. Also notify this other young man, and let him know he's going to be a father. It would be a incredibly stupid and bad idea to pass the baby off as your boyfriend's. The secret will be out when the baby looks nothing like him and he's already shelled out a great deal of money in child support. You DO NOT want to get to that point.
To sum up my key points:
-take a pregnancy test. Not pregnant, no problem. Just the fact you cheated.
-If you're pregnant tell your parents first.
-If you are unsure about who the father is tell your boyfriend he needs to submit to DNA testing.
-Then you will have to tell him you cheated.
Lastly, so there's no next time, use a form of birth control and condoms to prevent an unwanted pregnancy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2011): You should tell him what happened. Unfortunately you were the one that cheated, so you have to deal with the consiquences. I don't know how your feelings are about this, but there is always abortion as an option and just come clean with your boyfriend and start a new. But no matter what, you should come clean and tell your boyfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2011): Firstly, you need to take a pregnancy test and see if you are actually pregnant. If you are you need to decide what you're going to do about the baby.
You need to tell your boyfriend what happened, he deserves to know.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (21 January 2011):
 Nope, you shouldn't lie to him. It would be extremely unfair for him to have to go through that if it's not his.
He will find out eventually. Lies always come out in the end.
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