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writes: Im a 35 year old divorced female with 3 children, aged 15 14 and 10. I have been with my current partner for 4 years, and he is everything my ex husband wasnt. The problem I have is, that, he is in the process of buying a house, and has said, that through time, he would like me and the children to move in with him. There's nothing I would like more that for to be living with him, but i'm having a lot of doubts. When I left my husband, who was abusive towards me, I had to live with my parents for 3 months until the council found me a place to live. If I was to move in with my boyfriend, I would be afraid of that happening again, as the house would be in his name, and everything in it would be his. I'd be giving up my independence, and I really couldn't put my kids through all that upset again, although my partner says, and I believe him, that if things did go wrong and we had to split, he would let me and the kids stay til we got somewhere, but it would mean me having to rebuild a home again. I love my boyfriend so much and he's great with my kids, I really dont know what to do. Please help!
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reader, One-on-oneGirl  +, writes (10 June 2011):
Your position sounds like you love your boyfriend but you are scared to move in with him. If I were you I would ask my kids if they were comfortable moving in with your boyfriend. If they are comfortable and they trust him then you should move in with him. But if they are not comfortable moving in with him you should take a little bit more time until your kids are comfortable, and they fully trust him. You care for your kids and you don't want them to be put in a bad position again. Do whats right for your kids but then also follow your heart to!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2005):
You could get married....
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