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writes: Im a 17 year old girl who hasn't really had a boyfriend before and there's this guy at my school who has a reputation for having been out with a LOT of girls.I'm definately attracted to him but many girls are.I get the impression that he wants to go out with me and says that he hates his reputation and is trying to change.I don't know if I can believe him or not. He seems genuine. But if he asks me out should I say yes or not trust him?I'm afraid I'll end up another girl on his list. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2005): I have been in this situation and believe me guys like that are best left well alone all he'l done is muck you about its not a good idea to get invold with him go for a guy who has less of a rep with girls!!
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reader, robinlovescena +, writes (10 November 2005):
 You should never trust a guy over your friends. Go with what your friends tell you. they want the best for you. A guy could just want you for the sex. He may have been with so many girls that he couls have some sort of sexual disease. If he wants you to do something to you, and you do it, you may end up getting it as well. You should never go out with a guy that has a huge reputaion.
good luck
~Robin~
aka advice gurl
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reader, not again +, writes (9 November 2005):
Hi there, my first boyfirend was JUST like this guy. I try to live my live with "no regrets" but I do feel like my guy was dishonest and took me for a ride.
It sounds like exactly the same situation as you. I am not saying dont trust, but be careful. I wouldnt want anyone to have their first relationship as damaging as my one. I am a strong person, but not strong enough to cope with the feelings of being not reall cared about about and "just another girl." It is your decision, but remember- there will be someone better out there who you will be attracted to you and wont play mind games. Guys at this age pretty much are only after one thing and we all know they lie to get it. "i really want to change" gets used a lot. be careful. :)
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (9 November 2005):
 Lads like this, in my experience don't grow up for a long time, they're not even close to growing up at 17. Once they get a taste for sleeping around, it takes something or someone very special to change them. You must be careful because, as you say, he is like that and may just want another notch on his bedpost.
Now, I'm not saying people don't change. Just because he's done some silly things in the past doesn't mean he deserves to be unhappy forever. But trust your instincts, it's a dangerous game. Give a while before getting intimate with him and if he waits around, that's a good sign he wants more than just sex from you.
Just be careful and respect yourself. Lads can only take advantage of girls who allow it to happen so be strong and don't be a victim. Good luck
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reader, beenthere +, writes (9 November 2005):
you may very well just end up as one more broken heart he leaves behind but you are very young. this guy might genuinely want to lose this reputation. say yes if he asks you out. it doesn't matter how many previous boyfriends you've had or girlfriends he's had. i've known people twice my age who've only had 1 or 2 serious relationships but i also know a girl my age(25) who's been with he partner for 9 years. he's about 8 years older than her and is a divorcee with 2 kids.
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