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26-29,
*levis
writes:Okay. First of all, I have a friend, shes a girl. We arn't exactly the closest friends in the world but I think we get on quite well. So, I have exams next week and some people and I decided to get together for a whole revision session and my friend was there. And the revision session went well and I spent most my time with her, and eventually everyone jus sorta left one by one and we were left together you could say it was like an accidental date. So we got bored studying and we left and just mucked about and we had lots of fun, i think we really bonded (this is just sounding cheesier by the second) now im not madly in love but scince yesterday ive developed some sort of liking for her, it's not a crush becuase i know what that feels like, its something different and i can't place what it is. Now i'm not sure if she feels the same way but i have some examples of yesterday:When i said i had to go she asked me to stay a bit longer(i guess thats a good sign)BUT When we were walking home i needed to get something from a shop and i said i needed to go in and hse just said "bye then" and started to leave, but i asked her to come with me and she said okay.Also when i said i'd walk with her to her house she smiled and said okay. So i was thinking, okay why not ask her out on a real date. But I thought if we're such good friends why ruin our realtionship, eventually we'll have to break up if hse says yes. And im not afraid of rejection but if rejection means things will be awkward between us than is there any point. She's not really the shy type but she's isn't the most popular girl in school either. I'm not good at these sort of things, so I thought I'd get a bit of help.
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reader, Who  +, writes (16 April 2009):
 “Should I risk asking her out? Or just leave things?”Yes.The uncertainty you are feeling about what to do? Get used to it; it is the normal way relationships start. You are always going to have to decide if you should risk asking her out or just leave things. And no matter which way you chose you will not know what would have happened if you chose the other way.For the current situation, maybe you could try a small in between step that is not a real date. Like if you know she is going to walk somewhere, try to walk along with her. Or say “Me and my mate are going to [blank] to do [blank.] Do you want to come along?” (Fill in the blank with what you have in your town/school.) If things go well a few times you can try asking for the real date.Good luck and remember she might or might not be feeling the same uncertainty as you. Maybe why she asked you to stay longer, then said bye at the shop, then wanted you to walk he the rest of the way home.
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