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writes:Ok so last year i ended a relationship after 3 years because he always accused me of cheating. I was so in love with this man, but he was so controlling, and demanding. He didn't want me to have no friends over and god forbid if i had a male friend. Well now all i do is think of him. I am with someone else and i seem to be happy, but i am older than my new guy, and i feel like he is always cheating on me, or looking for new girls on the computer. I have found web sites and even emails, so i am at a cross road and need some advice. Should i really trust this one? He says he loves me, but i am wondering if i am just afraid to be really happy. Its not that i care if he has female friends, just don't know what to think. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2008): I may be a lot younger than you are to answer this question. But here is a suggestion i would offer from my own life experience.
First you never had any space with ur ex and that made you feel secure for some reason. Now this guy you are dating at the moment gives you a lot of space and himself has a life of his own. I would suggest you to hang on, give it some time. With time, you wll realize that not all guys are pigs and you definately need a guy who is free minded rather than a control freak. I have been through a similar situation where i had to dump a guy because he was way too controlling. And in my second relationship, i acussed my bf of having cheated behind my back just because i was worried that him giving me space means that he has something going on.
give it time. time heals everything and not all guys are pigs. give it a chance and love truly from your side. if you get the same bac with time,well n good if not, you had nothing to lose other than a guy who dint really love you. :)
dont worrry
goodluck
this is my personal opinion . i am sorry if i hurt you with my answer
and one of the other advice i would give you is.
i dont know if you believe in god or not, but for me, sometimes going to the church and doing a lil prayer every day helps me stay calm. pray and do things that you love to. this will help you stay positive, happy and in a healthy relationship
:)
let me know how things go
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