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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Basically last year I went on holiday with a group of friends and relatives there were a couple of guys I didn't know that also came who were friends of my friends. Anyway I really got on well with one of these guys and we slept together a few times and really liked each other. He doesn't live in the same town as me about 30 miles away, but we saw each other a few times after. This year we all went on holiday again and things were going great until another girl in the group of friends decided she also liked him. She knew we had history and were still really into each other. She never said anything to me directly but her constant flirting and pushing me away from him made it obviously she also told him and a few other people we were on holiday with. because me and him weren't a couple I felt I couldn't say anything because he wasn't mine. but after a while it really began to bother me as it felt she was rubbing it all in my face, the flirtatious dancing touching him etc. she said to 1 friend that she really wanted to sleep with him knowing that I had been. This is when I truly had enough and spoke to him and said I didn't want to get in the way and if he wanted her just tell me so I can prepare myself. He told me right in front of her that he didn't want her but he didn’t want to be rude to her and reject her. He gave me a kiss and a hug and said she’s after me but i'm after you. He was so sweet to me and I felt that he was being genuine. but she just got worse she did everything in her power to keep us apart she didn't want me near him for example she would moan if we walked together as she was left on her own but if she was walking with him I didn't mind. I and him both discussed being in a relationship in the future but just not right now as we both have a lot going on. But I just feel that she may have ruined all of this, I really want to talk to him properly but I am lost for words. And although this girl isn't one of my closest friends I’ve known her a while and I don’t understand why she would do this. I feel this has just made me want him more but should I really fight this hard for him?
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reader, Ometeotl  +, writes (16 July 2008):
 Do you think there is potential love for him in the future. If you think there is then don't let him slip away. The worse that could happen is that you two don't end up marrying and having that all American dream, oh well there is a few billion more men out in the world. If you have the opportunity to have then take and work with it. Just giving up wont help as it ruins your integrity. Be a women and take what is in your power to do. If this man shows interest in you take in the glory that you have the opportunity and she doesn't. She will move on to find her next victim while you have the time of your life regardless if it works out or not, as long as you tried. Best of wishes.
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