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writes: Im 27 and have the hugest crush on 1 of my reps. He's married and im engaged.We often go out out as a group and get on so well. People at work notice we have a "spark". I went on holiday 2 months ago to St Lucia for 2 weeks and the whole time i couldnt wait to get back to work to see him.Im not a home wrecker and cant stand these feelings anymore as i know if i ever had the opportunity i probably would have an affair with him so thats why im thinking of handing my notice in next week.Anyone else had these feelings? Do they go away?Its been nearly 2 years.....Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2009): Maybe, I could be wrong, but could this be a subtle message that you and your fiancé are not suited to each other. I mean you are engaged, shouldn’t you be thinking of the man you are about to marry. I guess you have asked yourself this question.
This obsession with a married man is a huge mistake. Married men = unavailable. The lust you feel = you are bored with your relationship. The realisation that you would cheat with this guy = you are in the wrong relationship.
It’s not the job you need to change; it’s your relationship with your fiancé that needs your attention.
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reader, tux  +, writes (11 July 2009):
 Learn some self-control. You need to learn to get a grasp on your emotions.. first off, I think the first thing you should consider is if you should cancel your engagement because you seem to have a taste of love beyond the guy you are planning on marrying. Then you can worry about the job situation.
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (11 July 2009):
 It's been two years?! Yes, you should definitely find another job or try for a reassignment. Remove the temptation if you feel that it's too much. That's the smart move.
I had the same problems with my boss once, I ended up resigning over it. It was one of the smartest decisions I've ever made.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2009): If it is a job you love or one you need, then either asked to be reassigned to a different department or get a hold on yourself. You are in lust and you are fantasizing and projecting onto him what you think a relationship with him would be like, and the fact that he is unavailable makes him a challenge.
Are you bored? Do you need a hobby? Find something in your life to be passionate about. You don't sound ready to get married to me, why are you even engaged and thinking about another man?
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