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writes:Hey, so I like this girl, have for months now.She keeps putting her self down, but to me she's beautiful, she's sweet, she makes me laugh and everytime I see her smile, it makes me feel so warm insideI'm not a virgin, although I've only done it once so I'm not completely experienced. But she is a virgin.She had a party not too long ago actually, but it ended up in a depressive state, where, her and some other girl liked this one guy, I was told that she liked me as well, but wasn't too sure on whether to believe so or not.She knew that I liked her, and felt bad thinking I was upset because she liked someone else, when actually it's because she was crying that made me upset and I felt if I tried talking to her, it would make things worse.Things ended on an average basis but I wish it could've gone better, I actually planned on asking her out on the day.I went to see her a few days ago, gave her flowers and a box of roses [the chocolate, her favourite] in a hope of cheering her up, and spoke with her for two or so hours then as my mobile died I had to walk home.Still, she says she is confused about what to do and not sure if she wants a relationship.Should I do as I have always done in the past for people? help them get together with someone else they like and end up alone and depressive like I do every day? Or actually, go for it for once, putting my happiness before others?It's really getting to me, I never usually feel this way so, would that mean anything?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2008): Twice I've been in a situation where I have tried to help girls either in a relationship or trying to get in one with someone. Both times I put their happiness before mine even though I felt that I would treat them right and that I was a nicer person than the one they were focused on. Look, you seem A LOT like me and you're very focused on her happiness. I think that you will make her happy and instead of helping her get with someone that probably will not make her as happy, you should try to get her to notice you and the things you have to offer. You're obviously a very caring person and don't want her to be sad, so why not make her happy by showing how much you care?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2008): Just ask her out!!
If u dont wana do it face to face write a lette a good place to start would be to tell her what u told us at the start of ur question:-
'But to me she's beautiful, she's sweet, she makes me laugh and everytime I see her smile, it makes me feel so warm inside'
I think thats really sweet =)
Good luck
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reader, edoggy06  +, writes (13 August 2008):
If you like her go for it, but be patient. She, is very unsure of what she want. She is starving for attention. She my be borderline. So, be careful. You don't have to help her hook up with someone else, if you like her. Plus if she is the one, it will happen. If not, you don't want to be with someone that is not the one. I hope this helps.
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