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writes: I am 24 years old girl. I have just met a guy during a trip. We have been together for 3 whole days with a lot of my friends. I got really interested in this guy. I have heard through my friends that he has a long distance relationship but he rarely talks about it. His behavior was so friendly with me and of course all the other girls. Although we are a bit far from each other but I'd love to be in a relationship with him. It has been about 3 years that I was not in any relationship, cause I didn't fall in love with any guy who is available. What can I do? Do you think it makes problem if I tell him directly? I am pretty sure that I will not be able to find whom I love easily, this has become my dream.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2008): This just sounds like really bad luck. Maybe you need to be more open-minded - it sounds to me like you maybe get a thrill out of liking someone that's unavailable or not close by. Perhaps, if you find someone nearer who is available and likes you, you should give it a try just to see how it goes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI am almost depressed because of being single for a long time. I had just 1 boyfriend in whole my life that we broke up 3 years ago. everybody agrees that I am beautiful, friendly and sociable. I have a lot of boys roaming around me and all of my friends are surprised why I do not have a boy friend. but in fact, the people that I had loved after finishing my first relationship, were all unavailable. I am awfully sad and do not have any hope for the rest of my life. I just do not understand what causes me to be miserable and lonely. what is missing? while there are a lot of boys telling that I am beautiful, why even one of them does not ask to be my friend? during these 3 years, 3 people liked to be my boyfriend, but I did not like them. although they never told me directly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI am almost depressed because of being single for a long time. I had just 1 boyfriend in whole my life that we broke up 3 years ago. everybody agrees that I am beautiful, friendly and sociable. I have a lot of boys roaming around me and all of my friends are surprised why I do not have a boy friend. but in fact, the people that I had loved after finishing my first relationship, were all unavailable. I am awfully sad and do not have any hope for the rest of my life. I just do not understand what causes me to be miserable and lonely. what is missing? while there are a lot of boys telling that I am beautiful, why even one of them does not ask to be my friend? during these 3 years, 3 people liked to be my boyfriend, but I did not like them. although they never told me directly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2008): How far away from you does he live? Because personally I don't think LDs work and I try to avoid them because I think you only end up getting hurt.
If he doesn't live too far away and you can see him easily, then I would just carry on talking to him. If he has feelings for you then he'll dump his girlfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2008): Don't give up on your dream...they do come true! If you feel uncomfortable about this new guy, don't persue it. You wouldn't have to end all contact with him. Just keep it casual. See what transpires.
Follow your dreams, you can still have a social life. But I guess you know that since you've remained single waiting for Mr. Right! Things don't have to be so black and white, though. (Totally head over heals in love, or nothing!) I hope I helped some!
Good Luck!
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reader, Miss Potter +, writes (22 November 2008):
Well you can drop him a mail/call and ask whether he fancies going out for a meal sometime, see what his reaction would be first.
If you do not ask him you will just probably regret not doing so and will wonder what if...?? So just go ahead and give him a call, if hes answer is negative then well, you know hes not the one then.
Good luck.
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