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writes:So about a week ago I hooked up with a girl at a party, I'm not going to lie, at the time I was just interested in a piece of ass.And from the things I'd heard from alot of my friends she's very easy, but we never ended up having sex or anything like that.And since then we've continued hanging out and talking alot, so I've started to like her for her personality and I'm no longer interested in getting a piece of ass. I think she likes me back, but because of all the things I've heard in the past I'm not sure if she's just playing with me or not.I know she's had sex with a few of my friends, which really frustrates me, it's none of my business what she's done or who she's done it with, but when she's done it with a few of my friends it's hard to forget about it.Anyways, I'm interested in getting into a relationhip with her, but I'm not sure I want to, I've been played by girls who have similar reputations in the past, and I don't want it to happen again.I know alot of other guys are interested in her too, whenever we're toegther she gets countless txt's and calls from guys, most of whom I know. Which is also quite frustrating...What advice do you have? Should I try and pursue a relationship out of this if things continue on this way, or should I just quit while I'm ahead?Thanks alot. Reply to this Question
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reader, Paladin +, writes (13 March 2008):
 Her past is the past and whatever you heard may or may not be true. Its always amazed how guys would talk about the woman they were with and in reality they were just lying as they tried to build their macho image. So unless you witnessed it yourself or she told you how could you be certain. More important than anything you hear is how you feel about her. The friends you concern yourself with today may be long gone someday anyway. You say you are concerned with possibly being played and while that may be the case you also appear to rather intelligent so I suspect if she is considering that you will figure it out long before you actually get played. The point is that you appear to like this person and deep down want to continue with her. Even if it is just to see where it all goes. So why not, after all you are going into it with both eyes open. Regarding the texts from others, why would you care. If you do go out with her and it does get more serious I doubt she will keep that type of communication going. Think about it right now you both are simply friends and you both are very available. I say why not have some fun and see where it all goes but if you can't let go of the rumours you hear then quit now because you will never have a quality relationship with a person you don't respect. Its your call but if it were me and I found someone who I enjoyed being with I would want to see if there really is something there. Best of luck
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (12 March 2008):
 You've already noticed many warning signs and things that bother you. Just quit while you're ahead.
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