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writes:So, I'm 15, turning 16 in like, two and a half months or something. I like this guy who's 21. He's really sweet, smart, funny and terribly caring My parents won't let me see him, but I've been telling them I'm with someone else. My question is, should I proceed with this relationship, or is the age difference going to mess us up? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks. They really haven't said that I can't see him, but they also haven't said that I can. Anyway, yes. I'm kind of insecure and vulerable-feeling at the moment, as I've just gotten kicked out of my table at lunch and now have to eat with the freshies. So...yes. I need to think.
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (14 November 2008):
 I teach high school, so I can understand 100 percent why you see guys your own age as immature. Unfortunately many (I said MANY, not all) are. However, dating a 21-year-old guy at your age can get you into trouble. I hope that you find a suitable guy, but don't settle for someone who is either immature or can get you in trouble, as is the case with this guy.
If you have to lie to your parents in order to get away with something, that means that you know in your heart that it's wrong. Your parents might forbid you to see him because they want to protect you, not because they want to be cruel. Listen to them, they want the best for you.
Like I said, 15-year-old boys can be disgustingly immature, but you should make the most of this time in your life... you're at the age where you need to find out who you are and what you want your life to be because that will affect your future in so many ways down the road... I'm older and I've had similar experiences, please listen to me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2008): I see nothing wrong with the age difference. Just be smart. Yeah he can get into trouble and so can you. My parents were the same age as u guys are when they started dating. My girlfriend is 11 years younger than me ( im 31). Here's my advice though. Listen to your brain and not your heart! Your heart is clouded by emotions and blissful crap. Your brain (if used properly) can tell you if you're making a mistake. If u like him and so on... Then great! Take it slow and date him when you're older. If its a self esteem issue and thats why you're with him, them you gotta address that! No matter what the outcome, always be honest with yourself and be careful!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks. I don't like lying to them and I try to avoid it when I can. But we really don't go anywhere other than just hanging out after school and such. We're really more on the ''friends'' side of the scale, though I didn't make it quite clear in the question. It could easily tip to the other side, though, and I'm not sure if I want it to or what to do if it does.
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reader, el Lori +, writes (14 November 2008):
 Age difference can be a problem in a relationship, but seening as you are only 15 soon to be 16 and this guy is 21, end it. He can get into trouble. You are still young and will not be able to go to certain places that he can. This will put a strain on the relationship. Look for guys your own age even though they sometimes might seem immature, don't worry there are some good ones out there.
Hopes this helps and Good Luck!
P.S You should not lie to your parents. They might have trouble trusting you again if they find out about this.
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