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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hi I met man four years ago and it became clear he wanted a Fwb thing, I initially thought okay but then got feelings for him and told him couldn't do it anymore. We stayed in touch and nit long ago he asked me out, I saw him five times in a week, we didn't sleep together just had a laugh watched films etc, om a night out I stupidly text him asking what was happening and he went cold on me after that. He doesn't text as much but recently he was ill and I took food for him etc and few days ago took him to pick up his car. We cuddled had a laugh and it was so nice, he is quiet doesn't say much and I'm thinking I should not initiate contact as perhaps he will finally come forward and say what he wants? Any advice, I just have this feeling he does like me and I adore him
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (14 August 2015):
 You didn't "ruin" it at all. You had every "right" to ask what was going on. You have every "right" to know if you HAVE something with him or not.
He chose to vanish instead of telling you yes or no. That says a lot about him doesn't it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2015): Thank you for replying, I've said a big ' no ' to the Fwb thing, it felt as if he was trying out the gf thing and then I ruined it all by asking what was going on hmph!!! ... Thank you ok going to forget about him and become miss unavailable
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (12 August 2015):
EDIT/correction:
I don think he likes you, but I'm not sure he "likes" relationships.
Should have read:
I DO think he likes you, but I'm not sure he "likes" relationships.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (12 August 2015):
I think since nothing of note (as in what YOU would like to see happening) has happened in 4 years that you should look at him as a platonic friend and nothing more.
IF he was really interested in more, would he not have tried to talk to you about it?
If you are looking for a partner, a BF - this guy isn't it.
I don think he likes you, but I'm not sure he "likes" relationships.
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (12 August 2015):
 This is difficult because it has bearing on your own morality, and attitudes to sex and relationships.
If he continues to want a relationship without commitment are you OK with that?
Will you be hurt if he suddenly finds true love with someone else? Would you mind being the 'other woman' if he still wants you and he true love?
These are questions only you can answer.
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