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writes:My fiance recently told me that he may be infertile. He says he's had two accidents that have resultedin crushing and one accidental electrocution.We aren't trying to get pregnant right now but I'mwondering if I should not get my hopes up forhaving biological children in the future.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2010): I agree with other answers, have him checked up and his sperm tested before you make any decisions. He did the right thing by telling you about his concern though, he just needs to get this properly tested before any decision is made. Then yes, think about how much biological children matter to you, talk to him about alternative routes to see what he is open for. Could be he has his heart set for biological children only, and is not willing to adopt/use a sperm donor. Also think about this: he might be fertile now, but during your marriage before you have children, one of you becomes infertile. Maybe you discover you can not have children, maybe something happens to him. Things can always happen and go bad, and it is best to have an open mind and be mentally prepared just in case. If you have your mind set for only biological children (and he has his mind set for that too) and in some years it shows you can not have them, this could mean the end of the marriage. Dealing with things now before marriage will give you a good indicator on how you two will be able to deal with life changing situations later on.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (18 January 2010):
Maybe make an appointment to see the doctor and have him checked over. The doctor might be able to help or suggest something.
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (18 January 2010):
google Fertility Institutes and check out their website. Lots of hopeful couples have been helped by technology
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