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writes:Me and my boyfriend live 4 hours away, i am 17 and we have been together nearly 6 months, my boyfriend is now thinking that it is too hard for us unless we lived closer so i was thinking bout moving up as i seriously can't lose him, he means everything to me and im afraid that its going to get too hard for him?! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2009): Me and my ex were like that after 4 months. He moved up a month later and then moved back down a few months after that, then broke up with me.
Chances are, you'll miss your friends and family and everything down where you are now.
Then theres getting a job and college and stuff. Would you be able to afford to live on your own and would his parents mind you living there without paying rent.
It's a really big decision for you to make. But having been through it myself, it ended in tears.
Do what you think it right :)
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reader, snickerluver  +, writes (28 January 2009):
ifu love him, and he mans the most to u, then YES it is the best to move up there with him. i know that LDR are hard and not so quite easy, but if u love the guy and u think it is the best to move then go. dont let moving stop u from dating someone because he moved-good luck.
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reader, Emajayne  +, writes (28 January 2009):
 You have to also take into consideration if he is willing to do the same for u. The last thing you want to happen is to get there and find out he really isn't willing to take that extra step that you are so anxious to take. LDR are extremely hard. I think im in one, not so sure as its a bit iffy...long story short he lives in scotland. thats 4000 miles away.
If he is truly worth it time will tell. I bet hes just getting nervous about the entire set up or maybe it is getting really hard. Relationships require contact and when u cant get any it sucks. A lot. Tell him how you feel. Talking with the person you are questioning is really the best solution. You can ask questions and keep asking them till you get the answer you want. I say just tell him how u feel, that you are willing to step it up and move ur entire life where he is because he means that much to u. But if that prospect scares him don't feel discouraged. You are young and vibrant and the opportunities endless. Sometimes things just arent meant to be.
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