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writes:My boyfriend lives in London, and I live in the US. Im willing to move there for him. but I dont know what I should do. Should I stay here and find someone else, or do I move to his country to try living with him? Reply to this Question
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reader, Oblivia  +, writes (3 November 2007):
 I'm sorry, I didn't take notice of your age before. I agree with the others that if you are 16-17 it is much too early to make such a huge decision to move overseas unless you have family to stay with there. At age 16-17 I wouldn't advice you to move in with any boyfriend just yet.
How did you meet him? Does he go to US at times so that you two can meet and learn to know each others better?
Take good care!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2007): While I agree with Oblivia in general on this post, I believe that you have got to think very hard about this at 16 or 17 years of age. This is an age where you need the support of your family and friends. You will lose most of this support at that distance. Talking by phone or text is not the same as seeing your family and friends in person. If you were in your 20s then I would also say to go for it if you feel it is the right thing for you. However, I don't think that this is a good idea at this time.
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reader, Oblivia +, writes (3 November 2007):
Hi,
If you are in love with him i think you should go there. Unless he can go and live where you are. It doesn't hurt to make a try and if you find out you don't like it you can move back again. If you don't go you might end up always wondering how it would have been like if you had tried to be with him.
How many times have you met before? If you don't know him well yet, maybe you can go there to spend some vacation weeks first, just to feel how it feels to see him in everyday life before you finally decide.
Wish you luck!
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reader, lilgirly  +, writes (3 November 2007):
 hey .
i see that you are 16-17 so i think you are still very young to move in with a guy, maybe you should wait when you are older and really know what your want.
good luck bye XXX
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reader, dtks +, writes (3 November 2007):
Personally i think you are to young to make that big of a decision right now to move to a different country. Do you have any family there? My advice is to stay where you are and visit each other until you both hopefully finish school. Something like this could really make a major life change you may not be able to handle right now. I understand it is hard and you want to be with him because you may love him (could be infatuation),but really think hard about this before you make such a major move. Take care.
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