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*oviefan
writes:I like a girl at my school, but i dont know if i should move on already. I think im over my ex but i dont want to start something with someone else and find out afterward that im not and hurt her, and i dont want to do that to her or anyone else, but i dont know if im being paranoid or if my fears are well placed.I could say that im in love with her but it is not as strong as i fealt about my ex but i feel similar.This could be because my ex hurt me and ive changed my outlook on some things. And i have noticed she has intrist in me for a while. And theres another problem she has been out of a past relationship for a few weeks and it didnt seem to bother her at school but it is bothering her. She has made that apparent to me in the last few days by talking to me about it. And since then we have been really hitting it off without much effort. So how long should i wait until i make a move, and should i base that on when she stops seeming bothered by her past relationship.
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reader, Moviefan +, writes (25 January 2008):
Moviefan is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks everyone i might try something like just being a little more then friends and staying there until were both comfortable. she has continued to try to get closer and closer by the day and asking me things like she was testing how truthefull i am to her, and she wants me to start talking to her on myspace and yahoo and she wanted to know a lot of personal stuff like my opinions on certain aspects of a relationship. She isnt making it ovius for me to realize she likes me. LOL. But she is definatly still upset with her ex. Why they broke up was because he kept wanting to have sex and was pushing her to do so. I wont do that im still very nervous about the prospect, i fear the possible reprocutions and other things, not size or anything its just the emotional side.
So thanks everyone.
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reader, KellyP  +, writes (25 January 2008):
 I think that you could start a relationship without being really commited to each other just tell her that even though you both just get out of relationships you have feelings for her that are just more than friendship and youd like to start something with her because your really into her but you dont want to hurt her and you dont want to get hurt eather just love one another without being tied up in somethings you are both not ready for just tell her your worries she'll actually be happy you care and just tell her the same way you tell cupid welll not the same same way but just be true to her tell her that you care and how you feel and leave your love one day after an other without absolutely plan a far future if you know what i mean itll come eventually but now you are both not ready for it..so i suggest you go with this of course if you ok with this situation because some people dont like to be in a relationship when its not serious or when they dont know what is gonna happen next and thats ok too you know but i think it would be good yall both just need love right now
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reader, massageismylife +, writes (25 January 2008):
 I dont think you should move on if your having doubts about your ex. if your ex was your first true love then feeling will always be there no matter what the circumstances may be. since you just got out of a relationship i think you should wait a little bit for your ex's sake and yours also. your still young so just have fun while you can but not to much fun to where you end up hurting someone or yourself! hope this was helpful take care!!
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