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*ediscko13
writes:I NEED support + help! i am so in love and well alright well first of: he broke up with me and told me that he thinks he's hurting me too much and that i lie alot just because i dont want to talk about my past...second he tells me that he wants to get back but also doesnt becuz of his trust issues..he doesnt want me to be with anyone even though he dumped me and tells me that he wants to just be friends now..he is one of those jealous types too but also takes advantage of it he'll tell me that ima F- someone like my best friend and i berly even talk to any of my guy friends becuz of him but i only did it because i wanted to prove to him i was faithful now...third he told me why dont i text him first alright well i'll just quote "hey when the fuck are u gonna text me first? lol"..he said"well i dont text you first anymore because you said you dont want to be best friends and i dont want to text you when i dont even know if u want to..and i still love you but i dont think you dont.." i said"oh ohhkkkaay dude..well you are trying sooooo hard to get back with me" he said sarcasticly"Well no ******* im not trying anymore because i tried so hard and now im not so im not gonna beg and crawl back to you" i said"well whatever..fuck friends..lets not talk anymore..good life..bye" he said":( bye.." i said i still love him though what should i do!!!!!!??????
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (21 June 2010):
 You are fooling yourself. Until you keep contact with him and run answering his texts, nothing will change and you will not move on.
You want to stay "friends "? why ? What for ? He said - in very clear words that he does not care about your friendship- and has proven not to be the best of friends ,at least for you.
His is a typical ego trip. He does not want you anymore but he hates knowing you'd be totally out of his influence and control.
"Tryng " to not text him back is not good enough, just simply formulating the concept in these words sets you up for frailure. When you need to get out of your house, you don't "try " to get out : you simply go to the front door, open it, and go out.
You need to decide you want to terminate this relationship for good ( frankly, I don't think you are at this point yet) and when you have decided you need to stick to your decision, without expecting it's gonna be easy or painless. It's a bit like quitting smoking- you don't "try",it never works. You have to be sick and tired of your dependency, and just stop cold turkey, and be prepared to pass many many many unpleasant moments , in view of regaining your health ( in your case, your emotional freedom ) at the end.
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reader, Lediscko13 +, writes (21 June 2010):
Lediscko13 is verified as being by the original poster of the question oh man ur so true idk why i never even ended our relationship...i was just not listening and now i just realized that i seriously need to woman up..but man ur like a big! big! help! and well i cant stop texting back to him when he'd text me because i like miss everything like the sweet stuff but i also hate the miserable and jealousy side...idk i think ima just try to move on but i cant promise to not text back to him i mean i want be his friend at least...but not more than that for now until he changes...and mans up huh? =]
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (21 June 2010):
Yep, I was right before. I say your other post about him not talking as well. Now we know the whole story, it's even easier to offer you advice, You definitely need to move on from this guy. He has MAJOR insecurity issues.
First of all, your past is your past. Contrary to popular opinion, you're not obliged to tell anyone about how many people you've been with or what your past has been like. All they will ever need to know is that you're STD free and things like whether you've been married or have a child. At your age, you probably don't have much of a past anyway.
Secondly, why are you bothering with a guy who dumped you, but won't let you move on? Why, why, why at your age (or even at any age) are you settling for a totally unreliable moron who can't get his own act together? Answer: you shouldn't.
Thirdly, why should you text him first? He dumped you. It's up to him to come to you, not the other way around.
Fourthly, his sarcasm just proves to me that he's even more of an idiot that I though.
Finally, he cut all contact after you made it clear you wouldn't let him play with you. Good for you.
I think he has issues. He is major league insecure, he can't handle the truth when it's put to him, he can't handle the fact you won't run around after him. What a primadonna! In my opinion, the biggest waste of a woman's life is when she settles for a guy like this. You don't want to be the woman who isn't allowed to go out because he's jealous. You don't want to be the woman who always has a boyfriend who throws his toys out the pram. Just cut all contact and never bother with him again. Never, ever settle for a moron.
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