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writes:I have a very lengthy history with an ex. We have never be able to work things out between us and we usually end up pushing each other away. Communication has been a big problem of ours as neither of us are good at bringing up things that need to be discussed relationship wise. Last year we started to really work things out and it again ended in him not wanting to talk to me any more. Since then I've noticed him driving by my house once in awhile. He even stopped once and stared at me but said nothing and left. He knows that I am with some one else (who I am not exactly happy with at all)so I don't think he's checking to see if I'm still with some one because he knows that I am. I think he still cares about me. I found him on myspace but am afraid to say anything to him. I need this to be resolved. I do care for him very much. I just need to know what he really feels.He may not reply to me at all if I message him and say the wrong thing. How can I get him to open up so we can have closure or move forward? I hate where we are right now. What should I say to him?Should I even message him at all?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2009): Sure message him and say I saw you driving by my house and stopping and staring at me, weirdo, what's up with that?
Seriously, what are things the way they are right now? There is nothing there, you two did not work out, you don't communicate well, just move on. He is not the option if you aren't happy with who you are dating now.
Try being single and on your own for awhile....be happy alone with yourself and then you will know what and who is right for you when you find it.
Good luck.
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reader, sunnycomet +, writes (23 September 2009):
 First of all you need to break if off with your boyfriend. You are not happy with him and you want to be with your ex.
Second, do what you want. Try sending a e-mail explaining your feelings to your ex and see what he responds with.
If you really don't think it will work out with your ex where you already had so many problems with him then it's time you move on.
Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2009): I guess closure is important. Some people can't get it at all. Well either way one of you will have to message the other in order for there to be any closure...so you may as well get over it. It isn't aimed to try to work things out. It's aimed to say your final thoughts and try to move on, so you don't live with that burden.
Just tell him that you want closure and you want to move forward....its as simple as that.
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reader, confusedguy1  +, writes (23 September 2009):
 well, i am living the same situation
and thinking of sending text message to my ex ... he wouldnt answer, i know him very well
how was ur break up . was there any violence or fight or ended peacefully , is he the kind of easy going guy and with out a lot of rules
i think you can text him ... Just to say hey or how have u been ? he would not answer probably
and you wont lose anything , no u would show him that u still care about him
and he might answer , you don't know whats on the corner
and Good luck
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