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writes:Okay well heres the deal. Ive been dating this girl for about 2 years and this april were going to the beach with 2 of her girl friends..were going to be drinking while were up there. I'm not sure if her friends are bi or not but I like the idea of a threesome or foursome...but should I mention anything to my gf or just shutup. Maybe i'd get lucky and they'd bring it up, but do I agree? because i don't know what my gf would think about the idea. I could really care less about it, I just thought it was a fun idea...i wouldnt do anything to jeopardize my relationship but if my gf was down for it, I would in a heartbeat
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2011): Don't do it, unless you're girlfriend has expressed or mentioned something about it before. My ex-boyfriend mentioned it to me once and it hurt me greatly. He said it 'jokingly' but the fact he considered it and had the nerve to ask me made me feel sick. It said that basically he felt our relationship needed other women in it for him to be satisfied. And it made me feel like sh*t. That's just one girls view on it. And don't mention her friends for it, that'll just be an awkward result for all parties.
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reader, Nime +, writes (27 March 2011):
 Try to gauge her moral views on sexuality before you ask. If she's always been adamant about being sexually monogamous and about only having sex with someone she's already in a serious relationship with (no FWB or one night stands), chances are she would be against a threesome. If she's had an open sexual past with lots of partners and pictures of herself kissing her girlfriends in the club she might be more open to it. I think it's important to first get a sense of how your girlfriend feels morally on these issues because if I had a boyfriend who asked me for a threesome it would be a deal-breaker for me; I'd have to let him go. I'd know we were on different moral planes. So if (A) a threesome is not all that important to you and little more than a fantasy, and (B) if your girlfriend seems to feel strongly about sexual monogamy, and (C) if you really love your girlfriend, I would not mention this desire of yours. But if any of A, B, or C is not the case, go for it. Best of luck. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHah yea I kinda contradicted myself, now that I read my own question I kinda made myself seem retarded. But anyways I dont plan on even mentioning a 3some or 4some, even uf her friends are pretty hot...my gf is way hotter so ill stick with my one on one sex ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2011): Hi, women are not pigs or dogs. If you are truly sincere about what you feel for your gf and your relationship with her, then that thought will never cross your mind a bit even if you are under the influence of alcohol.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2011): My man, please be careful with alcohol as that can severely impair your ability to make a decision. In addition, combining that with women could potentially be disastrous. Sure, physically its out of this world but in the end its feelings that come into play. There's plenty of threads on here discussing threesomes and foursomes while in a relationship. Overall, its highly illadvised you do it for various reasons... possible diseases, jealousy issues, resentment, etc. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2011): yea u should but make sure u dont mention her friends. just b like "i always wanted to have a 3 some" and c wats she thinks bout the idea if she agrees then mention her friends
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