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writes:I am 29 years old, I moved up north to get away from an ex that I was madly in love with that had a new girl pregnant while we were on a break but we were still in love, he wanted to do the right thing by his children which I respect him for. We ended up staying in touch for several years then I met a local lad the same age as myself and we hit it off, I fell pregnant straight away but sadly lost the baby.We then tried to work through these bad times together and I lost touch with my ex. I continued to try to work through my problems with my new partner but he was not as affectionate as I would like him to be towards me or my child from a previous relationship, he didn't know how to show his emotions which would cause big arguements as my child would feel pushed away as well.We then decided to end the relationship as all it was now was purely sex and this was not good for either of us. Two weeks after we split, still no period. I have been trying for a baby since my daughter was younger but had problems, now this had happened but at the worst time. We have tried to make it work but couldn't. I'm now due to have another daughter today and recieved a phone call from my ex. He wants to see us, what shall I do? I still have very strong feelings for him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2008): I agree, start slowly and get to know him again, find out how you feel. It sounds like you won't be over him until you find out how you still feel about each other, please dont spend your life wondering or being with a partner that you really dont want to be with out of a sense of obligation, it'll wreak havoc in the long run for you and for him. Just take it easy, be honest and kind with yourself and above all think of you and yours before all else. Either way, no relationship is a hell of a lot better than any bad one could ever be so regardless of whether it turns out to be what you expect or not, find a place where you're at peace with your situation. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you girls for your answers to my question, totally differnt views but very helpful, nice to see people being honest and consructive, typical of a man to say I need therapy though ha ha.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2008): See your ex.
From reading you post, you have bigger issues then whether or not to see your ex. Therapy might be of help, it sounds like you need to form a solid footing in life, and currently your to easily swayed. You need a stable life, something permanent.
Take care
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reader, Emmy-Lou +, writes (19 March 2008):
 I would say meet your ex, but only on common grounds.
If you do decide to start anything up again, take it very very slowly, this way if you feel uncomfortable you can make a clean break without affecting your children.
Hope this helps and good luck.
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