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writes:I worked with a woman a few years ago, and our relationship at the office got very intense. We worked together all the time, and this woman, who was my superior, had my office moved next to hers so we could be closer to each other. We are both married to different people and nothing romantic or physical happened. But it always felt very intense between us. I felt attracted to this woman and I sensed she too had feeling for me, though we never said anything to each other. This woman ended up leaving the place of work. We exchanged gifts when she left and she was quite emotional when she said goodbye to me. We kept in touch for a few months after she left the place we worked together and we even met once for lunch - just the two of us. But it felt awkward and wrong for us to see each other outside of the work environment. I ended up not keeping in touch with this woman after our lunch together for nearly two years.However, we recently reconnected online. We've been communicating about once a week by e-mail for the past few months. This woman always makes a point of saying in her e-mails that I should "stay in touch" with her and she recently suggested we meet again for lunch. I'm not sure if meeting this woman again in-person is the right thing to do, and I am unclear of her intentions. We are still both married to other people and no longer work together. Would it be wrong to meet alone together? I'm also worried that I may develop feelings for her again. But again, I am unclear of her intentions and feelings towards me.Help? Confused in St. Louis
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reader, moon river  +, writes (6 April 2011):
 You should just ask, but make sure you don't come across as big headed.
Has she mentioned anything about divorce that she may have been through? Perhaps this is why she emailed you. You could casually ask her how her husband is?
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reader, eddie85 +, writes (6 April 2011):
 Right now, it sort of sounds like there is potential interest in one another and I suspect all it'll take is for one person to make a move.
Why not meet up with your respective spouses together? That way it is all legit and you can't be accused of hanky panky.
I really don't see how this can be beneficial to either one of you. Let's face it, you are toying with having an affair -- or maybe you enjoy the attentions that this woman is giving you. But if you are serious about keeping on the straight and narrow, I'd keep it strictly to casual email (and even that is a stretch from what you are hinting at in your question).
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2011): Well would you be happy if your wife went out and secretly met a man for lunch? I think its pretty clear that the women wants you. If you don't want to cheat on your wife I would suggest not going to meet her and to just stop talking to her all together.
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