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writes:So i've told all my group of friends that i'm not a virgin and they all think i'm good in bed, i've never said i am but for some reason i let off that i am. The thing is theres this one guy in my group of friends who i really like and he likes me, but i'm not letting things go any further because if we do ever sleep together then he might realise that i'm actually rubbish in bed because i'm a virgin. I've broken my hymen with my vibrator so i know he won't be able to find out that i'm actually a virgin but he will think i'm rubbish in bed right? So how do i make myself really good in bed with no experience? I do not want to tell him that i'm actually a virgin so that is not a option. But please any help will be great!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2011): Im sure you already have a good idea of what to do right. Well be confident.
Confidence is the key, and if he knows what hes doing then be confident in yourself and he will fill in the blanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2011): I have a friend who was in the same position. Only i knew she was a virgin...1. All I told her to do was to not be conscious about anything, about getting naked, letting him touch you and touching him, just be confident. That is the key. Make sure your clean before if this helps you to feel more comfortable.2. I also said to lay on your back and just do missionary position first so he has to do all the work, if he asks why just tell him it feels the best this way. 3. If your going to do oral, -I'm not sure if everybody would like this but- make sure its really slippery and wet using lube or saliva or your own juices.4. If it starts hurting, stop it. Simply say something like 'oo that feels different, ow' if he asks what just respond saying it feels different to normal and that it hurts. Most boys don't get off hurting girls- and if he is that type of boy I suggest you stay well away...These are just a couple of tips I told my friend, but I also said that sex is much bigger a deal than its made out to be. Once you've done it, you will be like 'is that what the big fuss was about?!' Don't let people peer pressure you into doing something, unless you just want to do it for yourself. Finally try enjoy it, it will only get better each time, Honest! Hope it goes okHAVE FUN
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reader, Philips +, writes (6 April 2011):
 Good in bed???hahahaJust get naked and lay on the bed, thats all, he'll do the rest.Ok, so a guy doesn't make sex as a girl. I girl might prefer it gentle and slow penetration and then gets faster. A guy prefers hard blowjobs or handjobs. Stroke the penis quite fast as soon you get your hand on it, its not necessary to caress him all over his body.As soon as his penis is hard enough, its ready to go inside. So you lay down and tell him to get in you. From then you embrace him with your arm and he'll do the rest.However you should be comfortable before going at it and if you have posted this question then you are not really comfortable. My advice is to get to know him better, get used to his presence, his body, his smell,,ect..Have a little patience, it would be worth it.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (6 April 2011):
 He can't be much of a friend to you, or you to him, if you think lying to him and to your friends is ok. Try to be honest instead, if you value their friendship. No one wants to be friends with a person who lies to them and can not be honest or be trusted!!
If you don't want to tell the person you end up having sex with that you are a virgin, then that's ok, you don't need to tell them. But if they are your friends you should value the friendship more than lie to them. Or you can write them off as your friends, because imagine how many lies they tell you if lying amongst friends is acceptable?
The trick to being good in bed is to enjoy what it is you are doing. Basically, it is that simple. If you give him a blowjob because you think his penis is fascinating, and you just love the taste of him, and you get thrilled by his reaction to the things you do, then you are good at giving blowjobs by nature.
Likewise if you enjoy his penis inside of you, love the way he feels, enjoy moving your hips to feel him, take in all the pleasure (provided you do find it pleasurable) then you are a naturally talented person in bed.
The trick is to be able to enjoy yourself, do what makes YOU feel great, and ENJOY giving your partner pleasure, and dare to try new things. But, do not put any fingers up his ass.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2011): Quite simply, if a man has the heart to criticize you for lack of 'experience' in bed then he does not deserve your heart. Sweetheart, you need to find a man who values you for the person you are first. Why should you feel the need to "take things further" so soon? Forget the whole '1st/2nd/3rd date' stories where sex happens on the 3rd. MAKE him wait for such a special connection between the two of you to happen. Once you both know each other WELL, then you will both feel more comfortable with one another when that time comes. You don't need to tell him yet and, quite frankly, if how experienced you are in bed is of major importance to him, what the HELL do you see in him?! Sadly, too many men treat women like objects of satisfaction in the society we live in today and it is a huge shame. Find the man who has a degree of sensitivity and of whom is respectful towards you because HE will want to get to know you first. Never rush into anything because seriously, you will live to regret it when you realise that 90% of men have no clue of to treat a lady...I hope this helps. Keep strong.
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