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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hey,I have a problem with the boy I like. I went to university and got new friends. He was one of them, he is studying the same thing I am. He never really caught my eye until one time my friend started talking to him and when I got his name I but him in my friends list on one social network. He then asked for my MSN address and we started talking online.He was so kind and very smart and understanding. I liked talking to him and took him as a good friend. He really helped me through hard exam period and stress. He soon started flirting, but I didint think much of it.When the next semester started, he promised he will go to school properly. So we started seeing each other in real life as well. I am quite shy and when I saw him at first I felt butterflies in my stomach and I really froze. I didnt look at him or even spoke with him. I was with my other friend and after that...he was so jealous online.So we had this kind of relationship where I could talk with him about everything online but in real life I needed time until I felt comfortable with him. And if I did so, we had good times.I felt like he liked me too, he was jealous when I was with other friends, he said how much I mean to him and he is happy to have me and I could do anything with him. One day we saw each other on one party and we clicked. He started kissing me and he wanted me to stay there to spent the night together. (we didint have sex.Afterward everything went as it was before. He didn't make any moves to ask me out or anything and I still had problems to feel free around him. We still had good time!But now two weeks ago everything changed. He will not talk to me online, at school he is quite indifferent. I feel like I have done something wrong, I tried to talk with him about it. I asked if I have done something wrong that he is so ignorant with me. He say: I dont know. And if I asked what is wrong he said nothing, that I make problems that do not exist. And if I told OK I will kill the person who told that talking helps, he told to me that he dont think that MSN is talking. And when I asked should we talk about it at school. He said no, that I dont have to do anything if I dont want to. But he is till mad with me, I can see that because we are lab partners and he is quite rude with me in there. I would like to know should I make an other attempt to talk with him, should I do it in real life because he referred to that. Or should I just move on because he might just lost the interest?I feel like he just got mad that I speak to other people more than with him and he is tired of that kind of treatment. But I am afraid that maybe he dont like me anymore and is annoyed that I try to get contact with him again.What should I do? I like him so much and he is my first kiss. I know that he liked me too and I just dont know what happened. :(
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reader, Jesc  +, writes (24 April 2010):
 Hmmm, Then I think it wold be best if you play his game.
You tried that's all that matters. Now it's up to him.
Just go on with your life if he tries to talk to you be nice and reply back but don't push convos on him. That's all I can really say if you really like him, Guys have a man thing once a month just like women, so he might of hit his man period so to say.
Yet, The way you say he is I wouldn't bother with him. But this is your choice. If you do move on, try to be a little bit more outgoing on the next guy. It might help :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2010): I am afraid. Well at first, it was my plan to open up. I was so positive about it, but as soon as I walked in to school....he was the only one in there. And I just couldnt say anything but hello. We were quiet about 20 min. Well after that we had time before next class. It was me him and two other friends. He than literally stole me. But our friends found us. He was not that happy about that.... But I tried to feel free and secretly touched him and he seemed to like that. The next day it was again hard to face him and in our lab I was too busy to talk to him as well, because I had an argument with another friend. Afterward in MSN he was mad at me, that I was too loud and I than excused myself that I tend to be loud when I am in a comfortable company. And then he said: So S is comfortable company for you? Your standards are low. Ever sens it has been bad with him.I tried to be more opened....but he is mad and rude. I am losing faith. And after that MSN talk...where he was rude and told that nothing is wrong that I just make problems...I dont think that I am ready to get hurt and open up myself again. He does not talk with me in MSN and is quite rude in real life. I am afraid that if I would ask again that what is wrong, he would get really mad and will never talk to me even at school :(
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reader, Jesc +, writes (24 April 2010):
I honestly would have to say he did this cause of how you acted. He might think what you pointed out jealous that you talk to others more than him, He just doesn't understand. I believe you should try to talk to him again... In real life. Step out of the box a bit. If those butterflies start flying around catch them with a net. You need to show him you do want to talk to him. That you do want something with him that isn't over the internet life.
What if he thinks you are ashamed to be seen with him?
Or that you rather have the internet life with him than the real (Other than a close encounter at a party)?
You should try to see it how he might see it.
I say cut those wires, go talk to him in person. Let him know you want this person to person thing. If he asks why you are doing this, be honest. Let him know I like you a lot and when I am in person with you I get very shy, but when we are talking on the net It's not so bad. *Maybe throw in a joke, cover his eyes and say see my butterflies are claiming a bit down.
You should open up and be yourself. Or you will spend a lot of time doing this action for a good point of your life, try to be a bit more outgoing.
Good luck I hope it helped
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