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writes:I need some advice from a 3rd party. i'm unsure if i should make a move on a friend. shes currently on the outs of an abusive relationship and we've been spending more time together. whenever she's feeling neglected or upset, she'll come to me and we talk and joke around. the more time we've hung out our relationship has gotten friendlier and friendlier, our conversations have gotten sexual as well . she's slept over a couple of times too. there are moments when we are sitting on my couch no more than a couple of inches a part and there are these pauses.. like if i'm suppose to make a move and kiss her. we've both discussed the possibility of being sexual with a friend and it remaining that, uncomplicated, no attachments, because we are both moving away in a couple months so it would be something that would be enjoyed for the experience so as to share that with that person. we both believe in hooking up with people that we care about rather than some stranger. i understand that sometimes people are just friends but the sexual tension is just growing, should i just kiss her one night and if she doesnt respond, oh well and explain the reasoning because i don't want to stop hanging out with her either. but i can't not make a move, i feel like i should... just hesitant , any thoughts? any girls go over to a guys house wanting that and the guy just not making a move?
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reader, MsSadie +, writes (29 March 2013):
 Why not start by kissing her goodbye next time you part ways? Like on the cheek or forehead? Or how about making physical contact by touching her arm while you're talking, occasionally placing your hand on the small of her back, or wiping an eyelash from her cheek? On top of that, I'd try being more frank when you're coming onto her as opposed to vaguely talking about having sex with a friend.
That'll help you gauge where things are better than just planting a big ol' kiss on her lips while crossing your fingers that she doesn't freak out.
The fact that she recently got out of an abusive relationship is worth keeping in mind, however. If you two are as good of friends as you say, then you're likely to see some of the emotional aftereffects on her from that relationship more so than you would with a regular booty call.
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