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writes:Hi. I'm Nessie, I'm 16 years old and I have a big problem.I met my best friend [Bobby]3 years ago and we dated for about 6 months and then we broke up... Lately, we've been really "touchy" if you know what I mean and he admited he is feeling very atracted to me adn that he wants to lose his virginity with me.I don't know what to do because I just CAN'T stop loving him and it's hard for me to resist his impulses. I've always wanted to have sex with him, and now I'm afraid that it will ruin our friendship..What can I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you all for the opinions. I will think carefully before doing anything or I might regret... thanks
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reader, TruckerChic +, writes (12 October 2010):
I would tell you to hold off a while longer. Your at the age when your hormones are blowing through the roof and it is hard to resist them. When I was 17 I considered losing my virignity to my bf, then he dumped me. I know that it was for the best because I didn't 'love' him anyway and since my hormones have calmed down I am glad I didn't do it because now it will be special when it does happen. I really think that hormonal sex at 16 won't be near as good as waiting at least a few more years unitl your heart and mind can make that decision for you. I think you would be much happier if you waited.
Just so you know whose advice your getting...I am a 26yo virgin and there's more of us than you think. I'm not saying to wait util you get married, just wait for right guy and right feelings. I hope I could help you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2010): In my opinion.It should be with some one you trust and love, who will still be there for you afterwards.But i honestly think that you both might get that awkward feeling, yknow?
I mean, you did date,still friends, and hopefully friends after you guys do the deed.But you should hold off until your absolutely sure and ready that you want to do this.
xoxo Keep in touch
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2010): I knew as soon as I saw this title that the answer would be no... then I read it and now I have more then just one reason
1. Don't have sex until you're married
2. he just wants sex
3. you just want this to mean more then it does
4. you will regret it
5. sex does not equal love
good luck baby girl
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reader, [?]BitterSweetFinale;[?] +, writes (12 October 2010):
![[?]BitterSweetFinale;[?] agony aunt](/avatars/7bb1e9ea-6c2f-43b8-a4f7-0635b7eff08c.png) You are still young so you have enough time to think if this is the person you are destined to lose this to. If it is than do it.. If he wants to have sex with you, and you want to do it also than do it! You're both willing.
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo  +, writes (12 October 2010):
 You need to think about a few differnt things when making this decision, are you emotionally ready for sex, if so do you want your first time to be out of a relationship, as you may feel unsure, or possibly ised, after as you and this guy are not together. You only get one first time and it would be awful if you do this and regret it after as you can never take it back. I would suggest thinking very seriously about this decision.
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