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writes:I need someones advice!I love my boyfriend so much but things between him and I have now died off and I feel nothing for him anymore.I have been kinding seeing someone else behind his back but even though I want to take things further with this new lad I can't.One because this lad I am seeing has no idea I have a boyfriend and the other is when my boyfriends last girlfriend split up with him he tried to commit suicide and I don't want to leave him as I'm scared he will do it again if I break things off!My mom says I shouldn't keep beating myself up about his past and that if I'm unhappy I should look after number one, but I'm so scared he will do something!Imagine though having the guilt of someone killing themsleves on you! I can't bear to think I would be the reason for this! He never had anything to help him last time, his mate just found him 'in time' He won't go for any help so suggesting that will be no use to me!
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reader, Juliette +, writes (13 August 2006):
 You do have to do what's right for you and you are not responsible for someone elses mental instability. It would be much worse for him if her knew you had someone else already so since you seem sensitive to his problem, I would suggest you finish with him as soon as possible but maybe cool off with the new boyfriend for a week or so, or at least not be seen in circles your old boyfriend may see you as that would be rubbing salt into his wounds. If he does do anything stupid, then you will feel bad, but you cannot stay with him just because of his feelings. Just be thoughtful and considerate in how you let him go.
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