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writes:Me and Blake have been dating on and off for 3 years.Were both 17. My parents just stubbornly have their foot down..a positive NO that i cant see him. They think he's a bad person. One night i got caught sneaking out to see him (this was when they liked him) Long story short...They forbid me to see him again..i got upset and really depressed.And they saw that. I know their only looking out for me they love me soooo much. But yes, he has done some bad things that would make them think that...but that was when he was with OTHER girls. With me...he's like my best friend. We dont and never have had sex, were hanging with his family most of the time, playing basketball, cooking out, going hunting ect.. I bring out the best in him...he's quit smoking, dipping..and he's just having fun with a girl he loves..Not in bad ways though. I wish my parents could see that about us but they dont even want him to come over to talk to them. WHAT SHOULD I DO???????? I love this boy soo much.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (14 October 2010):
The problem with being a teenager is it's very much 'ME, ME, ME, I, I, I' and no one or nothing else matters. Teenagers can be stupid, they can be stubborn, they can be blind, deaf, dumb, nasty, rude. Everything. Sadly, it's part of growing up.
In my opinion, the worst thing is the deaf part. A few years ago, I didn't listen to my mother. Needless to say if I wish I had.
You're so into this guy, you're not listening CAREFULLY to reason. And whether you like it or not, your parents have come up with good reason to dislike him. Just look at what you've written:
1 - They originally liked him, then they didn't. People don't just turn against other people. If they don't like him, and have forbidden you from seeing him, then they see he is a danger to you and your happiness. I cannot tell you enough that you NEED TO LISTEN TO THEM. Because if you don't, you WILL get hurt. How do your parents know this? They were teenagers too, and they have been through EXACTLY the same things as you. They don't want you to screw up.
2 - He has done some bad things to OTHER girls. And? You think he won't do it to you? The other girls thought that too. He hurt them. Teenage boys are about as cruel as the human race can be - I know, because I was one. If he hurt other girls, he will hurt you because you're just another girl.
3 - The largest, most prolific mistake that women across this world make - you think you've changed him. Suddenly he's with you and he's changed. No smoking, no dipping, you bring out the best and all that. Sorry, I don't buy it. Changing is something that takes years, and is done for oneself and no one else.
You really need to listen to your parents. You're being given a HUGE warning that this guy is out to hurt you. Whether you do actually listen to them and to me is up to you. But before you leave this site, also read other posts about bad boys, not listening to parents and women being used. If none of that changes your mind about him, then you've just got to live your life and hope for the best.
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reader, Boy Blue +, writes (14 October 2010):
Well count the blessing that you are still in his life somehow even though it is not perfect. Even if you stopped talking to him, I've found that...it is difficult to make parents happy when they are unwilling to talk about these matters. Either way it is your parent's house so it is their rules...just don't get caught so cover your tracks. In the near future you might be able to move out and have a lot more freedom or maybe they will look at you like an adult...well you can only hope.
While I do understand that you love him with everything, that is not a reason to GIVE HIM everything. You don't need to do anything drastic just to be with him. Just keep holding on the way you are doing and keep a postive outlook and not a desperate one. I'm sure things will change.
Good luck
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