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writes:yea is it okay if my gf and i have a threesome i am not keen on the idea because its going to be a stranger plus its another guy should i let this happen?she told me it was going to be better i dont know what to do!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2011): my take on this as a person in the "swinger" lifestyle is that BOTH partners have to want to do it and have a comfort level with it or it will never work
don't do it if you don't want to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2011): Please do not consider this threesome. It was a poor decision on my part when I was younger and it completely ruined the relationship. Yea it was fun for that day but then I found out my bf was continuing to sleep with her behind my back.
Your gf is probably interested in other guys. If that's the case, let her explore on her own and break up with her. You deserve someone who loves you for all that you are.
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reader, Jizzpudding +, writes (12 January 2011):
Jizzpudding is verified as being by the original poster of the question there wasnt any problems at first as time went on she acted different towards me she paid less attention. i guess she wants to have a 3some just to say its over whatever the case may be im definitely not going to do it if she insists than ill probably just break up with her in any case thanks guys :-D
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reader, kenny +, writes (12 January 2011):
 Alot of couples do this, and are quite happy to do it, but its not everyones cup of tea. If you are unsure then persuing this could have a devastating impact on your relationship, and its sounds like you are very unsure. Is she not happy in bedroom at the moment, which is why she wants to bring in another guy?. How would she take if you said you wanted to bring in another girl, another girl who was fitter than her, im betting she woulden't like it. Just don't do it, you are having to many doubts so steer clear of it. I know i could not sit and watch someone i was with get rogered by another guy.
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (12 January 2011):
 Dear Jizzpudding,
As most of the aunts stated it's not a bright idea to have a threesome. Why? It complicates the relationship, you're not exactly fond of the idea of a guy having sex with your girl in front of you, there's a chance she could develop feelings for this man, and you may grow to resent her after the fact. Just take a look at our "Three's a crowd" archives on the right hand side. In there you will find anything from a guy leaving his girlfriend for the other girl they had a threesome with, leaving one counterpart totally out, even a husband wanting to divorce his wife because she gave the third counterpart her anal virginity.
May I ask how is your relationship with your girlfriend? Any problems? Do you have any jealousy issues?
You make your own decision. If you are going to go through with this, I suggest you state the rules and guidelines to this stranger at the beginning. Guys wear condoms, no anal, whatever.. Otherwise he will assume anything goes.
I know sharing is caring but in this case some things should NOT be shared.
Goodluck!
-Tennisstar88
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2011): Loving the name by the way ;)
Well, if you aren't comfortable with the idea then tell her.
You're an adult and nobody can make you do anything.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (12 January 2011):
 Well, if you're unsure it's best not to do it. I've done it and it changed how I felt about my GF. So Mr. Jizzpudding, why is this even on the table? Is it something she really wants? Was it something you thought you wanted? Is this third party already lined up?
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reader, Abella +, writes (12 January 2011):
You are very right to NOT be keen on this very dumb idea. Your girl friend is perhaps sick of you or has or wants to get started with a new guy, and is trying to tell you it is over with you. A threesome is ALWAYS a bad idea. On so many levels it is the wrong thing to do.
Better to tell her it is over, and tell her to find her own two other guys.
A threesome is demeaning to the relationship. It is never uplifting to a relationship.
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