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writes:I've been seeing this guy for sometime now, for about a year. He's in love an I'm not. He want to be a family with me an my kids honestly I could care less. Do I need to just let go or keep hoping to fall in love with him. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2010): Sweetie~I know you are pained, and while my advice will more than likely be received as "easier said than done" know that everything happens for a ultimately good reason when it comes to matters of the heart, even the heat-break that you are currently enduring.
Let him go, and please do not resent or wish ill-will for him because he does not feel the same way about you.
Based upon first-hand experience, as one who lived your exact heart-break, I now embrace the purpose of having lived it, as once I distanced myself from the dysfunction and therefore was blessed with the opportunity to live the real life misery of the type of woman I definitely don't want to share the rest of my life with, whereby the epitome of the blessed revelation has been clearly validated to me via the entrance into my life of a very dear angelic woman who is of the exact opposite substance of my ex and one whom is the typye of woman who I would want to share the remainder of my life with.
Please let go, and more importantly wish the best for your ex.
~No Pain, No Gain. You must lose to Win.~
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reader, xanthic +, writes (3 November 2010):
 It's been a year, if you're not in love with him on some level by now you're likely never going to be. Why are you still with him if you've become so ambivalent towards the relationship? Convenience? It wouldn't be fair to keep stringing him along if you have no interest in a future with this man.
Let him go, he deserves the opportunity to find someone that really wants to be in a relationship with him that leads somewhere.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (3 November 2010):
If you've been seeing him for a year and you're feeling this way, then it's time to end it and both move on. I think you might just be with him because it's convenient, rather than because you love him. Let him go, and find a guy who does make you want to care.
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (3 November 2010):
 You need to look into yourself and ask those questions what do you like about him and why? Does he do anything romantic for you?
I bet when he's gone after you decide you don't want him you'll change your mind. men love a good chase and your giving him that.
Try some romance.
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reader, LT56  +, writes (3 November 2010):
You many not want to hear this, but I think you need to let him go. I think that if you haven't fallen for him by now, you never will. If you stay with him, you may grow to resent him. Remember also that you'd probably doing him a favour because now he can find someone who really does have feelings for him.
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