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writes:Hi I need the guidance of a few red blooded males. I love my man very much, we have a lot in common, he is very smart and manly, and very attractive. He has acheived a very respectable amount in his life, not only money wise, but experience wise. We've been together for over a year and a half. I understand that men are very primitive creatures, and were hardwired to breed like crazy and women are the nurturers. This is my question: do you (men) think it is fair on the human race to put a ball and chain on men by monogomous relationships? I feel like I am holding my man back from being a "bachelor" (even though he was a bachelor for many years) and I think it is unfair to tie him down with marriage. He loves me to peices and I know he's thinking about proposing, but I feel like I should let him go and be a MAN. Do you think he will settle down anyway or will he be happier being alone and free to do what he wants with whoever he wants?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2010): Hello,He loves you to pieces you've said. So if he truly didn't want to be with you I'm sure he would say so. No your not holding him back. He's chosen to be with you. In my opinion maybe your undecided as to what you truly want. Good luck;D
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (13 May 2010):
Sounds to me like you're the one who is thinking twice about marriage here. A man can stick to one woman any time he really wants to. And your boyfriend has decided that he wants to. Stop worrying and work out whether this is the man you want to be with.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (13 May 2010):
 Not a guy, but how can I avoid answering....
I think you are overthinking things. If he wants to marry you don't play shrink on him and tell him that what he really wants is to hump around. Who are you to tell him how he feels and what he wants. Millions of men love to be with ONE woman, and millions of WOMEN love to sleep around.
This area of psychology is not black and white. Men are not stupid, they have brains and can decide whether to stay faithful to one woman or not. And I honestly believe that MEN invented marriage, not women. If you look back in history books women were often "sold" off to marriage. Mariage is not a female invention. And it is not a ball and chain.
Could it be perhaps that you are the one who don't want the ball and chain and are scared of his upcoming proposal? This sounds like nerves talking. So what if you talk to your guy and explain to him how you feel your relationship is getting serious and hear his thoughts about it?
And, if he DOES happen to propose in the near future, you can always say "Let me think about it".
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