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30-35,
anonymous
writes:ok i know this would sound like a wierd question,but i'm that desperate,i dont know who to go to..i am at that point in my life where i dont like what i am doing, i chose it because my parents would never let me get into the acting industry.. but i know for sure what i want to do with my life, i had a friend who felt the exact same way and his parents were so supportive, now he is doin a movie, i am happy for him but at the same time heart broken, i feel like i have no aim in life now..whenever i go out, people tell me have you ever considered acting, your pretty and stuff like that and i have to lie to them and say no.. but deep inside thats exactly what i want to do? now my parents who are very conservative want me to get married in another 2 years to the man they chose for me.. i cant deal with this anymore they are so conservative, when can i live my life, will they ever let me fall in love:(i dont where i am i going with this but i am thinking of just walkin away from them, so they realise that tying someone down is not good, all i need is their support which i am not getting. Reply to this Question
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reader, oneguy  +, writes (23 January 2011):
Hi,
Please sit down with your Parents and ask them why they don't want you to get into the acting industry. They may have very valid concerns. A traditional upbringing would add to their fears. It is common knowledge that the acting industry is very unkind to women in general and tends to exploit them. Your Parents would be heart broken if something bad would happen to you and they would not be able to forgive themselves if God forbid, something wrong happened with you. I hope you understand.
As for your friend, don't bother about him. Seldom do we come across people who walk the talk. Besides, he may have also genuinely told you what he thought was best for you, and what is best for you may not be so for him. So it's fine. Ultimately it is your choice, keep that in mind always and you will not feel like blaming anyone. Please always respect yourself too.
Probably, you could take up small acting roles in plays, or dramas of nearby groups that are well known. You could pursue it as a hobby rather than a full time career. You should probably not aim for lead roles in big cinemas, since those don't come easy and things could get dirty there. Slow and steady wins the race. Acting, not attention, is your passion, right? So act. Don't be afraid to act any role. No role is small. To win the war, you sometimes have to lose battles. That is the art of life.
Life is thus. It is always about compromises given the constraints we face. Please don't fall for glamorous displays of people who say things were a cake walk for them and so they feel lucky etc.. they are lying. They would have compromised on many things, or would have faced insurmountable challenges. Trust me, happiness does not come from our achievements, it comes from respecting ourselves for no matter what we do. We could fail if we followed our hearts. Or we could succeed. Would you feel sad if you failed? You would, if you failed real bad and had nothing to fall back on - that is the biting reality. I've been there. Happiness has little to do with following one's heart. It has everything to do with loving ourselves no matter what happens. Please remember this. Think about it.
All the best,
I hope you have a great life and get serenity and happiness in your life!
Regards,
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2011): Tell your parents how you feel. They love you and will want you to be happy. However, even if they discourage you, you should continue to persue your dream. It's your life and you need to do what makes you happy
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