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30-35,
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writes:Dear cupid Ok well I'm 19 now and my bf and i got together at a club. We met twice before that and he's friends with lots of my friends. When at the club he kissed me. I was slightly drunk but i sort of knew the situation. I was having trouble walking so he took me home where he kissed me more and fingered me. We spoke over skype and messaged regularly. We then met up to go for a film but didn't end up going cause he said he wanted to leave his gym bag in my room but we never left my room. After about 2-2 1/2 months he asked me out cause he called me his girl and i was all am i???? this made me happy at first especially when he said after exams he will make it official on fb. He asked me not to tell our friends till after exams. The only times i saw him were at evenings where he would come over and chill but would always end in some sexual activity but i always refused sex with him. He always got angry and ignored me for a few hrs. We only went out somewhere 2 times and i wonder if he just wants me for sex but he always disagrees with that. People ask me why i like him he is a sort of quiet person and im outgoing. I dont know why i liked him- it might be cause as im a virgin i was attracted to the new feeling and now as im used to them he is boring me! aiii! That sounds odd but since before i met my bf i knew this funny guy. I'd always talk to him on webcam and I'd always be texting him. I kinda had a crush on him but as my friend liked him I steered clear until one time when we were tipsy and kissed but now there are 4 guys interested in her and she likes some of them.Recently he came to my home with his sister and her bf so i could show them round my home town. Well he was in my room watching tv with me when he said he was tired and got into my bed. I just got in as i dont have problems sharing bed with friends. Well yeah he kissed me and i kissed back. He fingered me and i went down on him and we are still close. We don't act like it never happened and he knows I have a bf and he knows im unhappy with my bf. But my friend that likes him just told me she hasn't got over him and is angry. I let them stay at my home.Am i bored of my current relationship or just excited by this new one?Should i break up with my bf regardless of what will happen between me and the funny guy? Will it be wrong to my friend if i liked the guy she does?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2011): I see where you are coming from in that it will be awkward with mutural friends etc but you cant base your life around that. If your not happy now how are you going to be in 5 years?Friendship groups change i know when i broke up with my ex i lost alot of friends that were his too but that just shows they wernt worth it. The true ones stick by you and you will have a whole new circle of friends once you are with someone else and meet new people.There are alot of expiriences of life you need to live. One day you will look back and think 'hey that was a mistake but ill learn from it' get out there and enjoy life, but remember while your having fun dont drag others down, thats why it would probably be best to be single and free to do what you like without accidently hurting others.
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reader, aiii +, writes (25 June 2011):
aiii is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks i know im young i think your advice is great but im worried of breaking up with him as we share lots of friend and i want to keep our friendship and dont want him to hate me. but thank you so much for the advise i think its put me one step closer to deciding what to do
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2011): I would leave Break up with your bf regardless because you dont have enough feelings for him if you have this other guy on your mind.Personally i think you would be better off being single for a while and figuring out what it is you actually want.Remember tho, friends will always be there for you. Guys come and go particually at your age.Goodluck
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