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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hello,I've been going out with a guy for almost 6 months now. He is a very nice person. We are friends with benefits. I have a daughter and it's just very hard for me to find a guy that I want to be in a serious relationship with, and a guy that I think might be good enough to take home to my daughter and family.So I've been seeing this guy with no commitment, but he doesn't seem to care.He almost never calls me or texts me, although his friends have told me he is not the cell phone type. But when we are together he is very sweet and we have really good conversations. Finally about a month ago I confronted him. I told him I was confused and wanted to know what was going on between us. He told me he is to immature for relationships and likes his single life, but he told me that he enjoys being with me just as things are right now. (no comitmment)So I decided not to see him again, until I saw him a month later and we hooked up. That ninght i felt good, but I felt like crap the next day.I saw him again this weekend and he came over to my house and I didn't want to do anything. I wanted to treat him like crap, for not caring if he is with me or not. So I don't know if I am taking things too seriously...If I should just lay back and keep seeing him, or just forget about him completely and keep him as a friend.
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (19 February 2010):
 You did the right thing the first time when you decided not to see him again but then you stuffed up when you slept with him again.
No, you're not being too serious...you're looking after yourself and I think you need to demand what you want.
Don't stay around for this man...he doesn't deserve you. He says he's too immature for a relationship? Really? How come he's not too immature to keep sleeping with you? You know he's making excuses and I don't know why you take crap from him.
You say you want a man to be in a serious relationship with and a man who you can introduce to your family and daughter. Well, this is not the guy and you know it. And all the time you're with this guy, you're missing out meeting the guy you can have a relationship with and the guy youo can take home to meet your family.
Whatever you have going on with this man, it won't lead to anything good. You just watch when he finds someone who he wants to be committed to and he'll suddenly leave you and be mature enough for a relationship.
I hope you're strong enough to end this now and not look back. He's getting what he wants, but are you? It doesn't seem like it.
End this today and don't look back. You deserve better than this and as long as you're with him, you won't get the man you deserve.
All the best :)
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