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writes:Dear Cupidmy problem is quite different. i like to read erotic stories, tried to watch some porn movies but didn't like it much. So basically i like sex, but when it comes to doing it, i don't like it at all, i mean i hate it. i wanted it to end, i never really enjoyed even with the person i love the most. i don't remember being abused when i was growing up. in my whole adult life i had sex around 50 times may be and hated it all the time.i like foreplay, when it comes to really doing it, it seems to repel me. i pray that it should end soon. even thought i might be lesbian, but i am not attracted to women, i am attracted to men.I don't understand why i hate doing it but i love reading erotic stories. Am i a freak. Please help me.
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (21 May 2012):
 Real life sex is rarely ever anything like the erotic fairy tales you are reading about therefore the sex always disappoints you. Men usually don't ride up on white horses and whisk you into their arms and take you to a beautiful palace and then pamper you for hours with foreplay. I also do not think you are in touch with your sexual side therefore there's a disconnect between what you find exciting in manuscript, and what you find exciting in life. Maybe you're not attracted to the guy you're with. You may care for him. You may even love him on some level, but are you sexually attracted to him? I doubt it. Start pulling your head out of your books for awhile and look around you. Look for handsome men that you find intriguing. And then change your fantasies to match something in real life. Explore the things you find interesting and learn to touch yourself in pleasurable ways. You say you like erotica but you never said if it got you off (i.e. do you masterbate?) if you don't then you need to start exploring your own body in order to show a man what you like. Once you are comfortable touching your own body and hitting your pleasure spots you'll feel alot better about someone else touching your body and doing the same for you. It may take practice so don't give up. You have to make the translation from what you read and what you do or feel in bed. Good luck.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (21 May 2012):
 I think women in general are bigger fans of erotica then porn. I don't think there is anything wrong with it per say, as long as you accept and acknowledge that they ARE just stories. But that they can (like porn for some) be an inspiration.
If you aren't into sex that is fine too. Maybe it will come, maybe it won't.
Be who you are.
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (21 May 2012):
 Your not a freak at all.
You just like reading erotic stories, that is probably more of a turn on then actual sex.
Enjoy it!
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