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writes: So I've been with my husband for 8 years and married for 2 we've just had a beautiful baby girl but things not been good for a while even before we had her. I lost my Dad when i was 6 months pregnant and he was my hero, i did everything in my power to stay strong for the baby and was so scared of loosing her from the shock of his sudden death. My husband was no support whatsoever and all he could think about was that his mum had an operation the following week he went around after the funeral telling everyone trying to make them feel sorry for him. And he made me come home the day after my dads funeral because he had a driving lesson and it was getting close to his test. This is just one occasion where i feel he's not been supportive. He also left me In hospital 4 two days after i gave birth( all nice and normal no problems) except that my darling husband was nowhere to be seen, i was the only mum on the ward without anyone. he says that he loves me but i feel that what he says and what he does are two very different things. I feel i'm a mother of two now he does really stupid things that could put my baby in danger too like leaving really dangerous things out like a knife where she could reach it or giving her tiny things to play with that she could choak on,or slamming the door just as i've got her to sleep. i tell him over and over and it goes in one ear and out the other and things go back to normal again after a week of him trying. it's almost like mind games now. I've got to the point now where i cant take being the one to keep everything working and were having some time apart now. he's been begging to come back but i've honestly lost all interest in him now and really cant forgive him for not being there for me when i needed him the most. Weve talked and talked and i've told him how crap he makes me feel but im so confused now our baby's only 10months. everyone keeps telling me that we should work at it just for the baby's sake. Do i have to be miserable now because we have a baby? Since he's been gone though it's like this weights been lifted and all my friends are telling me how great i look. I honestly dont know what i'd do if someone was to pay me a little attention now either...it really wouldnt take much. Reply to this Question
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (2 November 2010):
 You should not have to take him back for the baby's sake. It sounds as though your young child is better off without him and so are you. It is not impossible to be a single mother. It may be difficult at times but in the end I think it is better than being with an immature and uncaring man like your husband. This is not how a husband should be and it most certainly is not how a father should behave.
You did your part as a wife and in the end he gave you nought but sadness. You do not need that in your life. Celebrate your beautiful baby and rejoice, now you have an opportunity to feel good about yourself and your world shall be so much brighter because of it.
I hope that helps.
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