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writes:i'm a 1st year law student and there's this 3rd year student i really like quite a bit. she's graduating in about 2 weeks, but she got a job in this city, so she'll be sticking around. now, she's a pretty strange case: an introvert and i cannot read her. i have sent her a bunch of fb messages, she she usually responds w/i a day. sometimes we'll have these long conversations where we each respond every hour or so and there is no real substance (i know i'm flirting, is she?). i recently found out that she has has recently had some serious trauma in a recently-ended relationship (restraining order, abuse, yikes). she seems very depressed and has expressed to me that she is hesitant to get involved w/ anyone, even as friends. i think i may be too persistent, but i really just want to get this girl out so i can see if we are compatible. she lives very close by, and the only time we have hung out she told me she had been crying all night via fb and she didn't want to see anyone, so i said "i'm walking up, so you can either meet me outside, or watch me sit on your porch from inside." she met me, and we talked. i made her smile. she was a crying mess though. to make a long story short, i really like this girl, but i don't know what to do? is it just bad timing? what can i do? should i stop pestering her via fb? i want her to put some effort into seeing me or talking. i feel like i am always initiating, and she is receptive. i even asked her if i was bothering her w/ my persistence and she said no. i am afraid if i stop initiating conversation she will just disappear and recede back into her hole. i want to help her. i know time will help. what can i do until then?
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reader, Garm +, writes (9 April 2012):
Garm is verified as being by the original poster of the questionshould i disengage and stop initiating contact?
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reader, Garm +, writes (7 April 2012):
Garm is verified as being by the original poster of the questionit's strange to message someone and no receive a response.
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reader, Garm +, writes (7 April 2012):
Garm is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni can do that. i just wanted affirmation that i wasn't being a weirdo. i am just having a hard time understanding her life and what effects that must have on her. should i wait for her to msg me next time?
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